u/das_glaube_ich

Assalamu alaikum,

I am looking for advice on this matter because i honestly am unsure on whether this is a good idea or not. I have met a Bengali woman online, and she has a great personality and we have gotten to know eachother over the past few weeks. She is excited to marry me and she is already committed, but I am still unsure. we have a 10 year age gap, and I am still a new college student for engineering. I've already talked to her mom and everything and she thinks im most likely going to say yes, and she is even planning her phD plans around this marriage decision. She wants me to decide by the end of the week, and then she will cancel her phD to live with me and do it later. I am not sure if i am at the place in my life to handle this or if the age gap is too large, but i ike her personality and she is great with deen and i do find her kind of attractive. My parents are also unlikely to support this decision. Any help on what I should do in this situation would be appreciated. Jazakallah

Hello all, I am seeking support as I am extremely distressed right now and i have no idea what to do. I am a revert muslim and am still closeted, I practice in secret because my parents hate Islam. I am going to university this year and have chosen to live in Masjid housing, since this saves costs and will support me in my faith (family doesn't know I've chosen this). I am going to move in after about 2 months but I fear the reaction of my father who especially hates Islam and screamed at me when he suspected I may be practicing a while back, (They are strict Christians, and I still live with them) On top of this, I am also afraid of fitting in as a white muslim revert. Any advice would be appreciated as I am in constant distress and don't know what to do.