r/IslamicNikah

Assalmu Aleikom wa Barakatu,

I'm looking for a potential wife who is righteous, has good akhlaq, and takes marriage and Islam seriously. I'd ideally like someone with an Arab/Berber background as I appreciate sharing a similar culture, but I'm not limited to that and I'm open to women from other backgrounds as well.

I'm in my early 20s, Arab and Sunni, and currently living in Europe. Regarding age, I'd generally prefer someone around 18–30, although I'm open-minded depending on the person and compatibility. I'm not particularly concerned about physical appearance.

As for myself, I'm happy to share more about my personality, background, education/work, and other details once we get to know each other. If you would prefer to involve your wali from the beginning or at any point during the process, I have no issue with that and would actually welcome it.

If you think we may be compatible, feel free to reach out.

BarakAllahu feek

Hi there! My name is Sauce. I’m from Minnesota. I’m looking to get married soon. Looking for someone to spend my life with. Female responses only,Preferably someone from the USA!

Should I marry a man who is unable to lead salah? There is a lot of background to this which may or may not be relevant. I would just like a quick yes/no answer from the more knowledgeable brothers and sisters, with a short reason. Thank you!

Edit: I should add that he doesn't know how to lead salah. Not that he is unable to due to any type of disability.

I am ( a woman) went to a Muslim law consultant concerning nikah contract.

I told the barrister/islamic law consultant to make a contract on these conditions:

1. only 1 marriage

2. Since we will stay in the in laws house, no one should interfere in the personal affairs of between me and my future husband

3. Husband has to take in charge all the financial affairs for me ( shelter, clothing, food) and other necessities

The consultant told me if the husband will take all the financial charges, then i will have to do all the household chores and duties compulsory in islam, and i also will work so, I am but confused whether i should make a contract or not.

I am no longer sure i want to go ahead with the nikah contract or even want to marry at all.

I’m trying to figure out what the average is.

My best friend asked for £5,000, my cousin asked for £500. I was thinking of asking for £27 as I think that’s the minimum. I don’t know if that’s a terrible idea though so I thought I’d see what others are doing.

Salaams x

Assalamulkium everyone!
I’m curious to see how many multicultural, mixed, or Hispanic/Latino Muslim brothers are on here and seriously looking for marriage in the United States.
Coming from a multicultural background myself, I’ve always thought it would be nice to meet someone who is also mixed or grew up with multiple cultures. There’s something special about being able to appreciate different traditions, foods, languages, and family dynamics while still having Islam as the foundation that brings everything together.
I’m also open to reverts, being born Muslim isn’t what matters most to me. Deen, character, values, family, and genuinely wanting to grow together are much more important.
So whether you’re Mexican, Puerto Rican, Cuban, Spanish, mixed Hispanic/Latino, or a mix of completely different cultures, I’m curious... where are y’all hiding? 😂 I feel like I rarely come across multicultural Muslim brothers in the matrimonial search.
Would also love to hear from others who are multicultural: has having multiple cultures influenced what you look for in a spouse?

Assalamu Alaikum everyone,I’ve been sitting with these thoughts for a while and I just need to get them out there to see if anyone else feels the same way or has actually done this. I’m 18, about to start college for biological sciences (pre-dental track!), and honestly, my head is spinning with all the "what-ifs" regarding my future.Lately, I’ve been dreaming up a very specific marriage scenario, and I want to know if it’s realistic or just a fantasy. I know I’m young, but I feel like I have so much love and energy to give, and I’m tired of the "talking stage" games or feeling like I have to compromise my values just to feel wanted.The Vision: Nikkah Early, Move In LaterMy ideal situation would be to get the Nikkah done early—like, while I’m still in the thick of college. I want it to be 100% halal and official, but I don’t want to move in together right away.I want that "young couple energy." I want to be able to go on dates, hold hands, and spend time together without the constant anxiety of "is this okay?" or "who’s watching?" I love the idea of us having our own little world—almost like we’re "sneaking around" in the best way possible, because even though our parents know we’re married, they don’t need to know every single detail of our lives or what happens behind closed doors.Why I want this:The "Electric" Connection: I don’t want an arranged marriage. I want that undeniable, electric feeling where you just know he’s your person. I want a love story that feels like it belongs to me, not one that was written for me by my family.Halal Fun: I’m starting college and I want to experience that phase of life with someone by my side. I want the excitement of a relationship—the late-night texts, the fun dates, the "honeymoon phase"—but I want it to be protected by the deen.Building Together: We’re both young, so we can figure out the "real world" stuff (finances, housing, career) together as we go. I’m already working and saving up for my first car, so I’m not looking for someone to take care of me—I’m looking for a partner to grow with.Protecting my Heart: Honestly, I’ve struggled with insecurities and feeling "unchosen" in the past. I’ve spent a lot of time making Dua and praying Tahajjud for a serious, committed partner who sees my worth. I’m saving all of myself for my husband, and I want that choice to be celebrated and respected.The Reality CheckI live in a pretty strict household, and I know my parents might find this concept a bit weird. They’re used to the traditional "get married and move out immediately" route. But I feel like this middle ground would give me the freedom I crave while staying grounded in my faith.I’m not looking for a shortcut or an escape; I’m looking for a love that feels like home. I want to be someone’s "person" while I’m still young enough to enjoy the chaos of being 18, 19, and 20.My questions for you all:Has anyone here done a Nikkah but lived apart for a year or two? How did it affect your relationship?How did you bring this up to your parents without them thinking you’re just "rushing into things"?Is it possible to find a guy who is actually down for this? I want someone who wants me, not just the idea of being married.I’m trying to be gentler with myself and trust that Allah has a plan, but sometimes the wait feels so long. I’m just a girl in the Arizona heat, working my shifts at Burlington, practicing my parallel parking, and praying for a love that’s worth the wait.Would love to hear your thoughts or stories. Please be kind!

I am looking a mutual benefit therefore looking rather a mature, stable, and trustworthy +40 for halal marriage, with strong deep religious connection or relationship that will, God willing, lead to a happy marriage. There are those who need such opportunity or deserve this in some Somali and other Muslim circles . Say Masha Allah and Let us explore this matter, Insha Allah

I am talking about guys between 18-25 who are fit for marriage yet they don’t qualify for it because either they are studying , doing part time or making low income.

Wouldn’t it be wise for women who are of similar age to accept the guys situation and be ok with no accommodation or low level accommodation?

But reality is guys are rejected by girls dad or the girl want well settled guy

Then the same young guys once they come into their 25-30s will then prefer younger women of 18-25 pool

You see where I am going ?

It’s a complete mess
May Allah guide us
As a younger guy you are stuck
As a older women you are stuck

The Prophet's ﷺ time is known as part of Khayr al-Qurūn ("the best of generations"). The Prophet ﷺ and his Companions lived in a time when the means of entertainment, temptation, and sexualized content were far more limited in their reach and accessibility compared with today.

Today, an ordinary person has instant and private access to content and experiences that even elites and kings of the past could hardly have imagined.

Yet, despite living in that very different environment, early Muslim society had comparatively accessible and diverse lawful avenues for relationships, marriage, separation, and remarriage. These included:

• relatively simple nikah and divorce;
• easier separation and remarriage, without many of the social burdens and stigmas we have created today;
• nikah contracts with clearly defined rights, responsibilities, maintenance, and other conditions;
• marital arrangements in which certain rights or expectations could be voluntarily waived, similar to what is now discussed under misyar;
• mut'ah, which has historical roots in early Islam and continues to be recognized in some Islamic schools, while other schools hold that it was later prohibited;
• polygyny;
• and, historically, milk al-yamin, although that institution does not exist as a lawful practical option in the modern world.

Anyone who seriously studies hadith, fiqh, and early Islamic history will see that marriage, divorce, and remarriage did not necessarily carry the enormous procedural, financial, and social burdens that many Muslim societies have placed upon them today.

Meanwhile, much of our present discussion focuses almost entirely on restraint: fast, lower your gaze, avoid this, avoid that. All of this is important. Taqwa and self-control are essential. But there is another question worth asking:

What is wrong with making permissible routes easier as well?

Today's environment makes temptation extraordinarily accessible. If Islam provides lawful avenues, why should we make those avenues unnecessarily difficult because of cultural expectations?

Some historical institutions are no longer applicable today, and polygyny may face legal or practical restrictions in certain places. There are also genuine differences among Islamic schools regarding particular forms of marriage. But that should be a reason for serious discussion and scholarship—not for pretending that positions held within recognized Islamic traditions are simply baseless.

My point is not that every school must accept every position of another school. My point is that we should return to the Qur'an, the practice of the Prophet ﷺ, the Companions, and the principles of Islamic jurisprudence and seriously examine the lawful options available within our tradition. If a recognized school has developed a position from Islamic sources, that position at least deserves to be understood and discussed rather than dismissed merely because it conflicts with today's social expectations.

There will, of course, be concerns: maintenance, divorce, inheritance, lineage, children, disclosure, financial responsibility, and the possibility of exploitation.

But why should the response automatically be to make the underlying arrangement socially unacceptable?

Why not regulate the problems instead?

We live in an age in which agreements can be written and registered, identities verified, financial responsibilities documented, and contractual conditions clearly specified. Modern technology and legal systems can provide protections that were not even available in earlier societies.

If a couple intends not to have children, that expectation can be discussed beforehand and permissible family-planning methods can be considered. If a child is nevertheless born, the child's rights must remain protected regardless of the parents' agreement. Modern tools such as DNA testing can also assist with identification and evidence where appropriate, subject to the relevant Islamic rules concerning lineage.

Likewise, matters such as maintenance, residence, financial responsibilities, disclosure, and procedures for separation can be clearly addressed within a contractual and legal framework, to the extent permitted by the relevant Islamic jurisprudence.

Every permissible institution can be abused. The internet can be abused. Technology can be abused. Ordinary marriage can be abusive. Divorce can be abused. That does not mean our first response should always be to eliminate the institution itself.

Where there is genuine harm, create safeguards.
Where there is exploitation, regulate it.
Where rights are threatened, protect those rights.
Where there is deception, establish transparency and accountability.

But we should distinguish between something being prohibited by Islam and something merely being uncomfortable according to our present culture.

Perhaps the discussion we need is not only:

"How do we make young Muslims resist temptation?"

Perhaps we should also be asking:

"Why have we made halal alternatives so difficult?"

Before getting married brothers should see how sister behaves around men because as someone who gets attention from married women.

I can tell you if you don't vet your future wife you will regret it

I am looking a mutual benefit therefore looking rather a mature, stable, and trustworthy +40 for halal marriage, with strong deep religious connection or relationship that will, God willing, lead to a happy marriage. There are those who need such opportunity or deserve this in some Somali and other Muslim circles . Say Masha Allah and Let us explore this matter, Insha Allah

I (f22) have been waiting for over a year to get married and my mother is onboard too however my dad hasn’t been taking it seriously. My parents are divorced because my dad was abusive (physically & financially) and couldn’t stop chasing women and marrying them whilst still married to my mum. He currently has another wife and 2 more kids however he’s still actively looking for another wife in his pursuit of “happiness”.

Anyways so the situation is I want to get married and me and mum found a good religious guy who i like. He’s travelled to my home country to meet my dad last year and his family have met me and my mum multiple times. Because this has been going on for over a year my mum wants us to have our nikkah done asap now. However whenever my mum brings this up to my dad he changes the topic or runs away from the conversation. We’ve tried talking to him in person and online but still he doesn’t care at all. On the other hand 2 weeks ago we had his wife call us crying about how he’s been looking for another wife and she doesn’t know what to do. My own younger brother has caught him using marriage apps and witnessed him flirting with women in the street.

I just feel so frustrated that i want to start a new life and be married however i can’t do it till my dad agrees and acts as my wali but i also know there’s no way he’s going to do that. Why can’t he focus on getting me married instead of running around trying to get married himself when he’s got a wife and kids at home. My dad himself tells all of us that he wants to build his own harem of women and all of us look at him like what????

I just feel so stuck right now. Mum is so fed up of my dad avoiding this to a point where she wants to follow the hanafi ruling where a girl doesn’t need a wali (we follow the shafai madhab where i would need a wali). Honestly i think i just wanted to get this off my chest because how long am i supposed to wait?

I’ve been discussing Nikah plans with my mom and everything has been really stressful. We originally wanted to keep a small Nikah but more and more things and ideas kept adding on to it.
The main issues were costs as everything was going to be quite expensive , and then family, since both myself and my fiance have big families so inviting everyone would be extremely costly and picking and choosing who to invite would cause drama 🥴.

It boiled down to one last idea: My fiance and I go to a masjid along with our immediate families and just have our Nikah on our own, then hand out pots of food to the needy & later on announce to our extended family that we got married.
We understood that this will also make a few people unhappy but at the same time feel that this could also be the best option. No extended invites, no big deal, no party, just an intimate Nikah.

Does anyone have any advice regarding this?

Bonjour,

Je suis femme célibataire francaise marocaine ( double nationality)de bientôt 46 ans avec une perle biologique âgé de bientot 10ans.

Je souhaite de tout mon cœur accueillir un enfant depuis mon adolescence.

Et ma perle qui connaît ce projet depuis plusieurs années est prête à accueillir aussi ce nouvel être dans notre famille, un frère why not.

Je suis au Maroc dorénavant pour un moment et je souhaite me lancer pour faire une demande de kafala.

Je connais ce que c'est ect.. je me suis beaucoup documenté depuis des années.

Ce qui me frêne c'est l'aspect financier exigé car pas vraiment précis.

Pouvoir prendre soin de l'enfant cela est une évidence mais y'a t'il au fond un seuil exigé !?

Je souhaiterais déposer mon dossier avec une vrai chance d'être accepté comme tuteur.

Ceux qui sont déjà passé par là où peut être des avocats qui ont l'habitude d'accompagner ce parcours sont présents ici et peuvent apporter un témoignage ?

J'en serais ravie.

Pensez vous que 1400€ de revenus locatifs suffirait ou il faut attendre d'avoir d'autres revenus ?( je suis en cours de reconversion profesionnelle )

Merci par avance à tous.