My mom goes through constant switches with me
I don’t really know how to format as this is my first ever post but I’ll try my best. I (17M) live with my mom (41F), grandmother (71F), and little sister (7F). Seeing as my grandmother has dementia and my little sister cannot stay home alone, let alone with a dementia patient, I tend to be home 90% of the time to take care of them. I don’t mind it at all despite how my mom may perceive my view on taking care of the 2.
Me and my mother have always had a on and off relationship my whole life. Seeing as we’ve bounced around homes with abuse in ever household, we’re very close. But she also tends to let loose her anger on me and only me. I am not able to work so she takes care of everything financially, and I take care of literally everything else. She throws everything she does for me back in my face as if I could do anything about it. I’ve always been the type of person to just sit and listen whenever someone goes off on me so it never bothers me.
What bothers me is when she goes through her switches. Just yesterday we were having a good day, laughing, joking having a great time. I thought everything was going well. She hadn’t had an episode in a few weeks and we’ve been good for the most part. But just today, she told me that I never do anything and that I can’t do anything even when I try. I make sure my mother never had to do anything when she gets home except lay down and go to bed. She throws hurtful insults at me and will remain in a state of anger for days on end. And then one day she’ll switch and go back to being good. I’ve spoken to her about this before and she dismisses my feelings and assumes I’m just trying to get under her skin.
I don’t know what to do. The constant resentment despite me doing everything for her my whole life and always being there for her is starting to become too much.