Husband 31M and I 27F are trying for a kid but our relationship doesn't seem healthy enough for one
Husband and I are trying for a kid but our relationship doesn't seem healthy enough for one
Need some help with marriage
Salam everyone, I (27f) am married to my husband (31M) and we have been having regular arguments since the last 1 year and seeking advice relating to that.
Posting from a friend's alt id because my husband is on reddit
We have been married for 3 years now,and we never had a very smooth marriage ever since we got married but in the last 1 year things have been worse,he always had anger issues and about a week after marriage he yelled at me infront of the entire family for the chores not done properly as I was having trouble adjusting in a newer environment and wasn't very efficient at that,I also wanted to teach in a school nearby but in-laws and him were not ready for it and we had a lot of arguments about that too.
Last year he was going through some stress regarding his workplace and I agree I could have been better to him in that phase but I couldn't and one night he just erupted (in January 2026) about some silly mess ups I did but later he brought up a lot of things I had done wrong in the past 2 years and most of our arguments too and he also brought up that I never am an active candidate in the bedroom either (I had never finished with him in the bedroom so I was never excited for it)so I calmed him down and started to be extra careful with the arguments and chores and also started taking active participation in the bedroom and about a week later he was repeatitvely asking me about how I feel being intimate with him and I gave him a satisfactory answer but he thought I was lying and kept asking again and again all throughout next month if I feel fully happy with it and I told him that I don't and he asked for what he could do better and I suggested alternative methods to which he got furious and questioned my character and after that he left the house
He came home in the morning and was visibly sad,I sat with him apologised and things seemed to get better but even now whenever we argue he brings that up and that hurts me
I've seen erotic content in his phone too and I feel like it's because he doesn't feel satisfied with me and I've really been suffering with that
Now we're trying to have a kid but I feel anxious thinking about our relationship and if we're ready to have a child
So I ask my fellow brothers and sisters about how can I put his mind at rest and be more ready for a kid as a couple