u/diamondeyes7

Background: 38F and my physical was this week and I went to the doctor filling in for my regular doctor. I always get really nervous at doctors offices to the readings alway skyrocket. In Nov 2025, the same thing happened, but I took my blood pressure at home afterwards and these were the readings: 121/91; 128/85; 126/89. I don't drink, I watch what I eat and my sodium levels and I do cardio 4x-6x times a week. I'm about 5 pounds overweight (due to fatugue from SSRIs) but I'm off those and trying to lose 15-20 pounds to get back to my normal baseline. Both parents have high pressure, but they both have unhealthy lifestyles. Also, I went to the eye doctor last week and my eye scan showed 0 signs of high blood pressure or diabetes.

I wanted to pull my numbers before the appointment because I knew they would be high at the office.

Late afternoon: 139/90, 137/90

At night: 140/98, 134/90

First thing the next morning: 133/90, 132/93, 125/95, 120/81, 123/86

Then at the doctors office it was 134/86.

I gave her the above readings and told her about my lifestyle changes, and she said she wanted me to go on meds, and start with 5mg Lisinopril and retest in a few weeks.

It just felt like a knee jerk reaction, I assumed she'd want me to do more monitoring at home. My heart races every time I put that damn cuff on. With the fact that I a few readings in the 120s, I just don't know what's accurate.

Am I in complete denial? Should I monitor my blood pressure myself the next 2 weeks before going on the meds? Or should I just go on the meds?

I cannot figure out what on earth is in style now. I don't want to dress like I'm 25, but I still want be fashionable. I just feel very frumpy and old right now, I want to get some zest back.

I've looked at Nordstorm, Banana Republic, Reformation, Asos, Lulus, J Crew, and I'm still just as confused as to what is trendy.

Feeling overall good, very bloated though. My stomach feels so stretched and expanded. I took well to the stimulations, but boy has it been emotionally and physically a lot, especially doing this all alone. My entire life has been preoccupied with this. I also really had funds enough for 1 cycle. I could do another one, but I'd have to go into my savings. Wouldn't be ideal, but still doable.

I turn 39 in two months. There is no way I have a desire to do another cycle right now, my body (my poor tummy) needs to recover. 3-4 months from now, yes I would be 39, but even if I only get 5-10 additional mature eggs I would be happy. I had initially told myself if I had 15 frozen eggs I would be happy enough to not do another cycle. 13 is very close to that. But you never know what will happen, and I want more than one child.

Previous post: Single 38F, got my AMH levels back: 2.45; 27 follicles. I want more than one kid, don't think I can afford more than 1 egg retrieval. I'm feeling really sad https://www.reddit.com/r/eggfreezing/comments/1uk390e/single_38f_got_my_amh_levels_back_245_27/

I (38, well 38 and 7 months to be technical) am single, not dating anyone, and still want a husband and kids. When I was 35, my AMH was 4.38. I got my levels checked a few weeks ago, and it dropped down to 2.45. I have an intro call with a fertility clinic for egg freezing in a few weeks.

I'm doing this alone and my insurance doesn't cover the retrieval at all, and already the cost of everything for 1 retrieval was terrifying, I was hoping I had a high enough AMH amount where I could definitely get enough eggs for 2 possible pregnancies. The doctor said they might be able to get 20 eggs in 1 retrieval, but 2 retrievals would be the better option.

I also asked him if he would be concerned if I got pregnant naturally at 40, he said that for 1 baby that's fine, but if I want 2 that won't be doable because getting pregnant naturally at 42 would be really hard with poor egg quality. And if my AMH levels dropped that much in 3 years, who knows what they'll be at 40.

Thinking through it, that would mean I could try to conceive naturally at 40, and if that doesn't work I'll have the frozen eggs. But again, I'm single, and I want a husband. I don't want to use donor sperm.

You might be thinking, why haven't you tried to find anyone? 32 & 33 was COVID shit, 34 & 35 tried but didn't have any luck. At 36 I moved to a new city, and unfortunately had to deal with some personal losses the past few years. Now at 38, I'm finally in a good spot....but haven't met anyone yet.

But I have the intro call with the fertility clinic, and I don't know what to except. I'm so scared of the cost, and I'll be out of town in late July and late August.

I wish I did this at 36 or 37...

I (late 30s F) am thinking about freezing my eggs, and am very overwhelmed.

I'm not asking about IVF yet, but just want to know about egg freezing, mainly how complicated and expensive it's going to be.

Thank you

*Mods - my hair is FINE* My FINE hair is low porosity and doesn't like protein.

I'm at my wits end, and I have wasted so much money trying to find the right products.

I have tried: creams, gels, mousse, texture spray; scrunching, plopping, diffusing; applying products soaking wet, damp, towel dried. Every time it ends the same way - with my waves falling flat into straight hair, but then gets frizzy because it's supposed to be be wavy. My hair is just so incredibly fine, NOTHING works with it.

If this is your hair type, do you wear it straight or wavy? And how do you get it to just look good?