u/dieingtodie

Hi,

I just wasn't to preface by saying I'm not asking for medical advice, just other people's experiences.

I am due to have my surgery 9th November, I have been doing lots of research to prepare. One thing that pops up is how no matter what birth control you are on you WILL have a period after surgery. I am currently taking birth control simply to stop my periods, I'm not in a relationship or sexually active right now. My consultant said to change to a birth control that isn't taken orally because the op can cause it to absorb improperly and therefore not work.

So before I go having something fitted (I'm thinking the implant) is it worth it? Because if I will be getting my period no matter what I don't see the point in wasting time and resources having something I don't even need and isn't going to do the job I want it too.

Anyone who has had their op already that has a period can you please let me know what happened with you?

Of course if I end up in a relationship I will get back on birth control but that's not something I want anytime soon.

Thank you anyone who takes the time to reply.

Ok, so I'm not really sure how to put this so I will just explain the best I can.

A little back story, I 36F have been single for a long time I got married to a man when I was 20 divorced by 27. My ex-husband is the one that allowed me to admit and accept I am bi, I have never told my family but my children somehow know (or suspect?).

I've basically been single since we divorced out of choice, the fact I'm a single mother with no time to myself and partly fear because I suck at small talk and meeting new people.

I say all this to say, I have not had an actual relationship with a woman, but I am very much attracted to women, in fact women are the only ones who can make me feel something on site (butterflies, tingling, you get the picture.... I hope) , men have to work for it, put in the effort and form a relationship of sorts first before I feel attracted if that makes sense? I don't know why, never thought about it until now.

But I ended up having a conversation the other day with my dad, and they mention something along the lines of "when someone is 90% attracted to men and 10% women..." I stopped them and said that's not how it works, but they went on to try and explain if you're in a relationship with men most/ all the time and only been with a woman once or twice (or w.e ) then you are/can be straight. I disagreed and said it's about who you're attracted too not who you have had a relationship with, but it's been bothering me for days and I think it may be because I now feel like my sexuality, that I was never really allowed to be open about anyway (not with my dad, I'm sure if I told them it wouldn't change a thing as they are LGBT+) is now being sort of invalidated. Do I go back to this conversation and give them a better explanation of what being bisexual is? Do I come out to them?

I've never actually come out to anyone besides my ex husband who really sort of told me I was bi which then made me realise I am. I think I was waiting to get into a relationship with a woman before I "come out" as I didn't really think it was relevant until then but as this conversation is bugging me so much, I am thinking that maybe it is more relevant than I wanted to believe.

I don't know, I'm so sorry for the long rambling post I just wanted some input, and maybe a better understanding of things if anyone can even make sense of my essay, I know it may not actually be that long but I'm a phone so it seems really long to me.

Thanks