u/divavill3

I’m sure there might be some women out there that are into it but it seems to be predominantly men. I’ve never met a woman into feet but I know lots of women that have guys into it. Why is this? Is there a reason there’s a difference?

Maa Kali found me a few months ago, and as someone who was previously an atheist (And European) I have no prior experience with Hinduism. Up until now, I have spent time reading Shaktist texts to ensure this is the right religion for me. Everything I’ve learned so far speaks to me so dearly and I am now certain this is my faith, and I am ready to begin my relationship with Her.

I have now started to set up my altar but I find there’s conflicting advice on how/when to practice daily worship. I know everybody will worship differently but I’d like to get an idea of how others practice so I can find a way that works for me. I have all the tools ready, and I want to utilise them in the traditional way.

I would love to know the steps you take pre, during and post worship at home that you find create a stronger connection with the divine. And some good mantras, which direction to face during prayer, intentions for personal growth and gratitude for others to pray for. And any other tips!

Please answer in as much detail as you are happy to share :)

I have bipolar disorder, went through a similar situation to Liz, and I see my symptoms reflected in her. She genuinely needs psychiatric help if she wants to keep her child:

I had my first child at 20 and went in completely unprepared. I had a very traumatic childbirth and think Liz may have too. The effects of a traumatic childbirth meant I didn’t instantly bond with my baby, had bad postpartum depression and feared I would never get that connection with my child. Upon separating with my child’s dad when he was 4 months old I had my first manic episode and my bipolar emerged as a result of ongoing trauma, which as we know, Liz has in her past. As soon as I saw her posting about not wanting her child and enjoying her freedom, that’s when I immediately clocked she is likely going through a manic episode. And her other behaviour supports this too.

One thing I will say is I do not think she actually wants rid of her child, because in my first manic episode during a custody battle I went through similar. I saw it as my first bout of freedom since I’d had my child (my baby was very difficult) and I lost control. For someone with bipolar stress is intensified, your mind is actively working against you and you CAN’T control yourself. I lost custody of my child for 3 months due to mania. When I lost custody I went off the rails, I’m talking JUST as mental as Liz. It took losing my child to understand I was showing signs of bipolar. So I got diagnosed, I got treated and the bond I never got to experience with my son kicked in. If I hadn’t gotten help I never would’ve forgiven myself. Medication gave me the tools I needed to be a good, stable and loving parent.

I think that Liz doesn’t understand that she is showing symptoms of bipolar because when you’re manic for the first time you don’t know it. If she is manic, she genuinely believes she isn’t doing anything wrong and she’s paranoid the world is out to get her. You feel highly erratic, impulsive, irritable and you make one bad decision to the next not understanding the impact. I believe she is likely at the stage of mania where she needs IMMEDIATE medical intervention before the episode progresses and she loses her child or her life permanently.

I understand not bonding instantly with your child and how terrified it’s making her. Motherhood is fucking hard when you have little to no support system. But you’re a mother, your most important job is looking after your child. And if you’re unable to do that, you need to take a hard look at yourself and work out what it’s going to take to show up for them when it gets tough. She cannot afford to be stubborn about getting help right now, time apart from her baby is ticking and is impairing their bond every second she isn’t there.

It’s hard to admit you’re suffering with mental illness. She’s tanked her career practically overnight, she’s a single mother, doesn’t have a support system, threatened the child’s father, said abusive things to his mother and more. She can’t take any of it back, her priority now is the child. What she needs to do now is recognise she is in active mania, get some help, and be the mom her child deserves.

so basically, we’ve been dating for around 5 months and things were mostly going good! we hadn’t had any fights or arguments about other stuff, usually we get along really well. we like to game together, get cozy etc but there is one issue. long before we met (since i was 17) i had been a stoner and it’s been a big part of my personality. i’m not crazy with it, but after a long day of work and responsibilities i like to spark up and relax in the evening. i’m also a chronic insomniac and always have been and weed is the one thing that helps me get to sleep.

my boyfriend knew this about me when we met. i literally had it in my tinder profile. he had never smoked before and i never encouraged him to, but he decided he wanted to try it so we did a couple months in and it went horribly wrong. he ended up getting really paranoid, whited out and ended up throwing up. so obviously he never wanted to do it again. it’s completely valid, i know weed isn’t everyone’s cup of tea.

he still lives at home with his parents whereas i have my own apartment. so he would come over a few days a week instead of me going there. ever since that night he’s felt uncomfortable with me smoking around him, so i stopped for a little while. but he’s start spending longer at my place and so i hadn’t been able to smoke OR sleep. it got to the point my sleep was so bad i would be passing out at work.

i believe weed is medicinal for me so i told him i was going to start smoking again but i wouldn’t do it with him in the room, i’d go to my bedroom window to smoke instead and i’d only do it before bed. he wasn’t happy about it but i kept pressing i would only do it before bed and i have.

he keeps complaining about the smell even though it’s… my apartment, and i’m not trying to smoke in front of him. i even tried a thc vape and he would still complain about the smell. he would get passive aggressive anytime i did it and it would start making me anxious and my mental health worse because of the way he’d treat me while i was stoned.

last night he reached breaking point and he told me (after i’d smoked) that he wanted to talk. he told me it’s either i try some sleep medication from the doctor (i’m a woman and trying to get the doctor to give me anything for sleep has resulted in me getting absolutely nowhere) so i can quit smoking or he will continuously be unhappy about it. he also says he’s embarrassed of me because his parents could smell it in my apartment when they came to meet me and keep talking to him about it.

i don’t want to quit smoking as it’s just a part of my routine and it benefits me so much but he’s making me feel so negative about it all the time and i don’t want to feel like this anymore.

it sounds embarrassing to be like it’s him or weed but it’s genuinely something i feel like helps me relax and helps my insomnia and he’s acting like i’m a drug addict for using the medicine that helps me. i don’t know if i can quit full term in the long run.

is there any way i can reach a compromise without him making me feel bad and help him understand why i do it? i would like to work through this but i don’t want to quit.

TLDR: my boyfriend doesn’t like that i smoke weed for my insomnia and wants me to quit. how do i reach a compromise?

i’m saving up for the game because i’ve finally caved :c

is deluxe worth it?? or is the regular version just as good?