u/doesntmatteryet

I'm 28m, was dating a 26f for almost a year in delhi ncr. I didn't know much about the caste relevance - I had grown up in Mumbai, US & Canada. It never really came up in my life. I was vaguely aware of my caste (kayastha) but never saw the importance of it.

Everything was going well until last night when she sent me a message saying that her chacha and other relatives strictly want a baniya for her. At first I thought she was looking for reassurance so I told her that my parents will be okay with it and I can have them reach out to hers, or that whatever happens I'll be with her but after a few hours of silence and a little bit of back and forth I came to realize that she is not strong enough to fight her family if it comes to it.

I feel sad and dumb because I should have researched this before blindly falling in love- I should have known that intercaste marriage is a rare phenomenon. Now, I don't know what to do, I feel emotionally overwhelmed, I feel like silently checking out. I don't want to project the emotional pain on my parents either but I'm unable to hide it. I'm not able to let go. It's not a good feeling.

I was wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and what you did to get over it. Also, moving forward - should I just date within my caste for safety? I don't know how that even works. Thanks for the help 🙏

I’ve been living outside India since 2016 (mostly US/UAE/Canada) and in FY 2023–24 I stayed in India for 6+ months. I shared my full travel history with my CA, but my return was filed as “Resident” and my global income (including US salary and crypto gains via Robinhood) was taxed in India. I ended up paying around ₹7 lakhs in tax even after DTAA (due to a lot of crypto earnings that year).

From what I’m now understanding, I likely qualified as RNOR (since I’ve been non-resident for many years / under the 729-day rule), in which case foreign income shouldn’t have been taxed. My return clearly shows “Resident” and not RNOR, so I’m pretty sure it was filed incorrectly.

is there a way to correct this now and claim a refund (with interest)? The revised return deadline has passed, so I’m assuming I need to go through condonation of delay under Section 119(2)(b). Has anyone gone through this process successfully, and how difficult is it in practice? Also, any tips on documentation on this would be really helpful