Do I just have to accept off leash dogs?
Edit for title: Off leash dogs that are out of control **
My dog can be pretty nervous around unknown dogs, and unfortunately when out on walks at local parks 9 times out of 10 the dogs we pass rush over to us. I am trying to train him to be able to walk calmly past other dogs, but unfortunately since most dogs come over to us, we are at a stand still with our training. Generally these dogs aren’t just strolling over, they are running up to us in what I would think is in quite a rude manner. My dog then gets nervous when he sees them approaching and can’t follow commands. This has then led to him showing the same behaviors around dogs who just walk past, because he doesn’t know they aren’t coming over and is anticipating them coming up to him. I would be happy if he could even ignore just the dogs that walk past nicely, but I don’t see how that’s possible if he can’t distinguish between the two situations. He doesn’t know if they are leashed or not!
On the bright side, he does awesome in training sessions, like at our local dog training club or out in a busier town setting. Generally in these places, unlike at the park, dogs don’t come up to us. So he’s so good at passing by, even if they are half a meter away, he just trots on through, even creating space which is awesome! I think because he knows we are training, and he knows that in those places dogs hardly come up to him, he’s more calm and doesn’t focus as much on the other dogs. Unfortunately that isn’t something we can do everyday, and isn’t fun for him to do day after day, he loves running around at the park and being silly. But that comes at a cost :/ Now days he’s recovers better from dogs rushing over, he’s quick to get back on track to sniffing, although sometimes he can stay worked up for minutes. Which is unnecessary stress on him! There’s even a person he spots and now immediately tenses up because on how many times the dog has rudely rushed over. Thankfully she has recently started leashing her dog when she sees us!
I try to always stay calm in these situations, I don’t shout or make a big fuss, I just try to encourage him along. But that doesn’t seam to have much affect on the situation! I’m unsure what to do. I want him to be well trained, I want him to be calm around random dogs at the park, but it seams like an impossible situation. How can I train him to stay calm and not worry about other dogs, when they all rush over to him! I have occasionally tried talking to the owners, and I’m either met with a rude look and being ignored, or an argument. What else can I do? Is this a matter of more training, although I’m not sure what? Or do I need to try and deter other dogs? I have tried body blocking, which has had no effect so far, and the owners don’t care so??? Should I try a light weight bright yellow vest with “nervous” on it? Would that get people’s attention? Usually we are pretty far away from the owners when the dogs rush up, so will they even notice it? This happens at all parks, so unless I don’t walk him, I basically have to go. He’s the kind of dog that loves the environment, and it fulfills him more than anything else, so I don’t want to take that away from him!
He’s actually a really friendly dog, and he wants to say hello, but when they rush up like that it makes he very nervous and unsure. He probably goes through 2 or more greetings a day, sometimes less, depends on the day! But he hasn’t made any improvements in terms of staying calm, so I don’t think more exposure will work. I try my very best to avoid other dogs, but generally most places we walk have paths or tighter more head on tracks we have to walk through to get to more open areas, and that’s where the interactions usually happen. Should I pick him up when I spot a dog that I know is coming over? Obviously this isn’t ideal for training, but it will avoids the interaction. I wouldn’t do this with a big dog, but small dogs that can’t reach up to him? I don’t wanna look like an idiot, but I also don’t want all this stress on him. He actually has a medical condition that for some dogs has been worsened and has triggered attacks due to even small amounts of stress, and although I’m not sure if that will be the case for my dog, it’s not something I want to happen to him. So I really would like to avoid a lot of these stressful interactions. I think his way of dealing with stressful dogs can look like play to someone who doesn’t know his behaviors, so maybe some people think he’s playing? Could the other dogs think he’s playing and that’s why they chase him around? Or are they just rude? Honestly I’m so unsure of what to do. Any advice would be appreciated.