u/dominic-33

Lemme share my experience

There is this guy, who is 2 years younger than me..

He was my college junior..

He actually confessed his feelings to me back then..

I rejected it, bc avante over confidence kandappo I thought it’s some prank 😬

But later during the college days he tried so hard to impress me

But no progress happened

Appo anghana college okke kazhinj…
He tried contacting me … but just after the college I got job.. anghana busy ayii.. I completely ignored him

Kore kazhinj

Lately we reconnected at our mutual frnds marriage

I never expected he still wanted to be my bf..

That guy is even ready to marry me ASAP

So ithrem genuinity kandappo

I decided to try dating him

We went for a casual cafe date

Actually njnum avanum oru lengthy conversation ithuvare indayittilla

During our first date… I realised he is just an immature guy
Like chelorkk enthelum sadhanam venonn bhayankara Agraharam ahnu
But avar kk athu kitti kazhinja ah oru craze povum…

Anghana oru character

He is very emotionally immature

Avante oro kaaryam parayumbo..
I think he is too dependent with ppl around him

Since I didn’t see a future with him, I thought it was better to end it early than waste either of our time.

I clearly said I can’t continue this

Then we parted

Appo ond kazhinja day

From our mutual frnd I heard… that junior guy said
Njnum Avan dated for about 2 months

And he broke up with me bc I’m too controlling and frnds ney patti bad things gossip cheyyum nn okke

I was really shocked
I even doubted my frnd

Appo odane phone eduth I tried calling him

He blocked me

Actually… at that time o felt so lucky
Like njn Ivaney date cheythirunnel?? Enthokke twist and turns indayeney …😾

The age gap was never the issue. Two years is nothing. For me, it was simply about emotional maturity and compatibility. I’ve met people older than me who were emotionally immature too, so I don’t think age alone means much.

So…for those who’ve dated someone younger, did the age matter, or was it really just about maturity?

Five years ago, I was in a relationship with someone I thought I’d spend my life with. We were young, but we had plans. We wanted to build a life together.

Then caste got in the way.

Our families were completely against the relationship because we belonged to different castes.

We tried for as long as we could, but eventually we had to let each other go.

He went through a lot because of our relationship, and watching someone you love struggle is one of the hardest feelings.

At one point, I felt that letting him go was the kindest thing I could do, because I loved him and I wanted him to have a peaceful life, even if it wasn’t with me.

The breakup was messy, and it took me a long time to move on.

Eventually, I stopped thinking about that phase of my life altogether.

We didn’t speak for almost five years.

A few days ago, he called me.

He’s getting married, and I felt happy for him.

It just felt peaceful. My only thought was that if he’s ready to get married, then he has probably found the right person, and after everything he went through, he deserves that.

Then I told a few friends and cousins, and almost everyone asked me the same thing: “If you really loved him, shouldn’t you feel something?”

Now I’m wondering if they’re right.

Did I really love him, or is this simply what healing looks like?

Can you love someone deeply and still reach a point where hearing they’re getting married only makes you happy for them?

And sometimes I wonder about something bigger too.

How many relationships have ended because of caste?

Will there ever be a time when caste stops deciding who people can love and marry?

Will we ever see a society where people don’t have to lose someone because of the family or community they were born into?