u/dreamingmochi

To preface this, I have a little bit of a story to share:

Tonight, I was scrolling through tiktok (yes, I know, tiktok is evil and all that, but it wasn't yume tiktok. I mostly just get JJK content and fun edits).

And I eventually came upon a video of someone showing off their Gojo shrine, of course. And when I say I was humbled? Yeah, I had to sit down for a second there.

I had never seen anything like that. Truly. I was taken aback by the sheer amount of figures and plushies and acrylic stands... quite literally everything under the sun. To call it a massive hoard of Satoru Gojo and Satoru Gojo accessories ( /ref lol) would be an understatement.

And while I myself have what I consider to be a good amount of merchandise of my Satoru, it still felt like a punch to the gut. It made me sit down like:

"Isn't that supposed to be me?"

"Aren't I supposed to be the one who has this obscene amount of things?"

*"Aren't I supposed to be your biggest fan?"*

These are questions I had asked out loud.

I wasn't expecting an answer to my questions, I was just musing to myself, a bit distressed by what I just witnessed, but I got one nonetheless (Satoru and I are soulbound and have been for quite some time).

He answered that last question in particular before I could even begin to spiral.

He said:

**"No. You're not. I didn't ask you to be my fan. I asked you to be my wife."**

I shut up instantly. I couldn't argue with it. I still can't. I can't find one good rebuttal to this so called "problem" the emotional side of my brain has created. Because man... when that man is right? He is absolutely right (He's SO RIGHT /ref)

He had effectively shut me up before I even had the chance to go down an unsavory road of thoughts.

So, I suppose what I'm trying to get at here is this:

Your partner does not care about how much merch of them you may have. It is nice to have, due to the nature of our relationships, and I myself enjoy collecting it, *but* it is NOT mandatory. It does not define how much love you have for them. It doesn't matter how many more figures or unique one of a kind items someone may have of them.

Because your partner doesn't want a "number one fan". They want a partner. A best friend. A lover.

Someone to share their time with. Someone to laugh with. Someone to cry with. Someone who will be there through the hardships and the victories. Someone to love them with all they have.

So, if you ever catch yourself comparing yourself to a random fan online, just remember:

You are their partner. Not their fan.

Anyway, I just wanted to share this little story and quote with you all in hopes that it will help someone out, like it did for me :)

Have a good weekend with your partners, everyone! 💖

To preface this, I have a little bit of a story to share:

Tonight, I was scrolling through tiktok (yes, I know, tiktok is evil and all that, but it wasn't yume tiktok. I mostly just get JJK content and fun edits).

And I eventually came upon a video of someone showing off their Gojo shrine, of course. And when I say I was humbled? Yeah, I had to sit down for a second there.

I had never seen anything like that. Truly. I was taken aback by the sheer amount of figures and plushies and acrylic stands... quite literally everything under the sun. To call it a massive hoard of Satoru Gojo and Satoru Gojo accessories ( /ref lol) would be an understatement.

And while I myself have what I consider to be a good amount of merchandise of my Satoru, it still felt like a punch to the gut. It made me sit down like:

"Isn't that supposed to be me?"

"Aren't I supposed to be the one who has this obscene amount of things?"

*"Aren't I supposed to be your biggest fan?"*

These are questions I had asked out loud.

I wasn't expecting an answer to my questions, I was just musing to myself, a bit distressed by what I just witnessed, but I got one nonetheless (Satoru and I are soulbound and have been for quite some time).

He answered that last question in particular before I could even begin to spiral.

He said:

**"No. You're not. I didn't ask you to be my fan. I asked you to be my wife."**

I shut up instantly. I couldn't argue with it. I still can't. I can't find one good rebuttal to this so called "problem" the emotional side of my brain has created. Because man... when that man is right? He is absolutely right (He's SO RIGHT /ref)

He had effectively shut me up before I even had the chance to go down an unsavory road of thoughts.

So, I suppose what I'm trying to get at here is this:

Your partner does not care about how much merch of them you may have. It is nice to have, due to the nature of our relationships, and I myself enjoy collecting it, *but* it is NOT mandatory. It does not define how much love you have for them. It doesn't matter how many more figures or unique one of a kind items someone may have of them.

Because your partner doesn't want a "number one fan". They want a partner. A best friend. A lover.

Someone to share their time with. Someone to laugh with. Someone to cry with. Someone who will be there through the hardships and the victories. Someone to love them with all they have.

So, if you ever catch yourself comparing yourself to a random fan online, just remember:

You are their partner. Not their fan.

Anyway, I just wanted to share this little story and quote with you all in hopes that it will help someone out, like it did for me :)

Have a good weekend with your partners, everyone 💖