u/earthdarlingg

Hi all, bear with me—I will try to make this a fact-based read.

My cat Mitzi, 8, was hospitalized over the weekend for suspected pancreatitis/IBD.

In the hospital she was doing great—her levels improved, vitals normal, and she was eating-yay!

I got her home last night and she immediately went into hiding; I gave her her medication, she ate (3-4x), but since this morning she is back in hiding and very sleepy.

I’m scared something is wrong again. Is it normal for cats to have an adverse reaction the day after a longer stay at the hospital?

Hi all, I just went thru a pretty crushing breakup and it’s left me confused as to what just happened and what to do now…

I 36F was seeing 34M for two months; we never put a label on it, but he was amazing to me… chemistry was off the charts, he’s given me flowers every time I’ve seen him, brought me food after a particularly hard day, spoke highly of me to his friends, MET his friends, picked me up, paid for everything (even when I asked if I could get it “just this once”), met his sister, and most of all, we talked at great lengths about the future. I had no reason to believe anything was amiss… we were seemingly smitten for each other.

Over the last week he was having a rough time at work and so was I, but we stayed very communicative and he rang me a few days ago to vent a bit.

While he vented work related), he said he was getting anxious about not being able to show up for me the way I deserve. I just comforted him, that there will be days like this and we will go thru it from time to time, to which he felt insecure that it took us two months to see this side of each other. He started sharing his personal fears, said he’s worried about holding me back, and eventually it just registered that this was the end.

Despite not saying he wanted to break up, he did say he felt like he really liked me but he didn’t think he was enough and that I deserved better. That he wasn’t happy. We cried on the phone then I hung up. He said this was not how he wanted this convo to go, and when I asked how was he expecting it to go he said he wanted to be happy…

I am so unbelievably confused. Was he expecting me to fight for him? Should I have, despite him telling me I deserve better and that I’ll meet someone amazing?? All this dismissive talk and he wanted me to stay? I think I did the right thing leaving… but I’m still so hurt

Hi guys, I’m (36F) who is looking for something serious. Over the past few years of dating I’ve noticed that once men get a date in the books with me that they do not talk to me in between dates. Additionally, and this is NOT a generalization but a bonafide fact, when we do have our first date it often times is not good. In fact it’s terrible.

Is there something to not talking before the first date? Why do men want to do this?