u/eliaseud

I am \[16F\], my boyfriend is \[14M\], and we have been together for 3 months now. and were classmates

For as long as I can remember, I have never been the type of person to cling to anyone or rely on others. I’ve always been very independent — I prefer doing things on my own, I don’t need anyone’s help, and I am perfectly comfortable being by myself. I even hated PDA before; I thought it was too much, unnecessary, and I swore I would never act that way with anyone.

But lately, I have noticed big changes in myself that I never expected. With him, everything is different. I find myself getting really clingy all the time. What used to make me uncomfortable, I now crave — I hold onto him, stay close, touch him, and show affection in public constantly, which is the complete opposite of who I used to be.

I have also become very emotionally dependent on him. I feel so attached that whenever he visits me, I never want him to go home. I just want him to stay with me, be with me all the time, and I keep thinking about being with him forever. He is very reliable, kind, and treats me so well, which I know is part of it — but I didn’t think I would change this much in such a short time.

My question / request for advice:

Is it normal for someone who was so independent, reserved, and disliked affection to suddenly become this attached, clingy, and dependent in just 3 months? Has anyone experienced this big shift in feelings? Is this healthy, and how do I handle these emotions so I don’t become too much for him or lose myself in the relationship?

 

TL;DR:

I \[16F\] am dating \[14M\] for 3 months. I used to be super independent, hated PDA, and never relied on anyone — now I’m extremely clingy, love affection, depend on him emotionally, and never want him to leave. Is this normal, and how do I navigate these feelings?

I am \[16F\], my boyfriend is \[14M\], and we have been together for 3 months now. and were classmates

For as long as I can remember, I have never been the type of person to cling to anyone or rely on others. I’ve always been very independent — I prefer doing things on my own, I don’t need anyone’s help, and I am perfectly comfortable being by myself. I even hated PDA before; I thought it was too much, unnecessary, and I swore I would never act that way with anyone.

But lately, I have noticed big changes in myself that I never expected. With him, everything is different. I find myself getting really clingy all the time. What used to make me uncomfortable, I now crave — I hold onto him, stay close, touch him, and show affection in public constantly, which is the complete opposite of who I used to be.

I have also become very emotionally dependent on him. I feel so attached that whenever he visits me, I never want him to go home. I just want him to stay with me, be with me all the time, and I keep thinking about being with him forever. He is very reliable, kind, and treats me so well, which I know is part of it — but I didn’t think I would change this much in such a short time.

My question / request for advice:

Is it normal for someone who was so independent, reserved, and disliked affection to suddenly become this attached, clingy, and dependent in just 3 months? Has anyone experienced this big shift in feelings? Is this healthy, and how do I handle these emotions so I don’t become too much for him or lose myself in the relationship?

 

TL;DR:

I \[16F\] am dating \[14M\] for 3 months. I used to be super independent, hated PDA, and never relied on anyone — now I’m extremely clingy, love affection, depend on him emotionally, and never want him to leave. Is this normal, and how do I navigate these feelings?