Need advice: Do you take someone back that left you first and courted someone immediately after?
Hi. Me and my ex both in our early twenties have now been broken up for nearly 3 months. There are a lot I've been thinking so I figured I wanted some of you guys' advice.
We broke up 3 months ago, on his terms, due to a problem that has been pressisting for months before. The truth is, we have been on and off for months before this final breakup as well and we haven't figured out a certain way to solve the problems but I had a concrete plan that might have solved it a few days before we broke up and I was waiting for his free time to discuss about it. But he decided to break up that day and no matter what I said, that didn't help anymore. One strange thing about that breakup was that, in the past, whenever we broke up (mostly from my side first), he'd always tell me that we would definitely meet in the future again and that he would deffo make it work out with me after we all have achieved our goals. But this time, there was nothing. It was just 'just hate me' and he was sentimental and sweet on the night that we broke up but ever since after that day, he changed like a completely different person. I tried to reach out to him, to beg him to stay and to apologize for that one problem that I did wrong and he ignored me for days without replying while going out with his friends. He would come back at every now and then to talk intimate things (sexually) with me and I would accept it because that was the only time I had his full attention.
So, I was like spending the first one month waiting for him to come back and yearning. What I got to know at the end of that month was, he was courting another girl, probably a week after our breakup. And he was putting his all effort into that girl as well, that's what I heard. That broke me because those little contact with him throughout the months kept me anticipating. So I finally tried to move on but he'd always come back every now and then and give me a little bit of affection and then disappear.
During the later two months, we kept this almost-constant contact but we talked so bad to each other (but no cussing or stuff like that) and that eventually settled down and now he wants to try again. I still love him and i don't know I think he still loves me. What should I do? His friends told me that he only came back bc that girl he was courting rejected him and now seems to be courting a new one but he said he's not courting anyone. I allowed the contact for this whole 3 months too. These days, we've been having nice and peaceful connections and I alr told him that i don't wanna get back ever again but I'm changing my mind again... Any advices?