Slightly Off-Topic (but, I hope, drawing on this sub's collective wisdom...)
I know some of you have dealt with Sarah types; we've talked about it in this venue.
So have I. I'm now (very temporarily, I hope) dealing with a new one. None of the alcohol consumption and (so far) none of the murder, but plenty of the insane toxicity and insoluble confrontation. Close proximity, hard to avoid.
I'm hoping for a simple piece of advice. When I'm faced with such a person, I have a very unfortunate tendency to talk to them in my head. Try to reason with them, attempt to drive a point home, whatever... I do this during any otherwise mentally vacant time. It keeps me up at night. It drives me to distraction when I try to work or chill. It never does any good (just gets me more riled up), and yet I'm compelled to do it.
If you've dealt with a Sarah, and you've encountered the same conversation-in-your-head problem, have you developed any strategies for shutting down the useless, circular internal dialogue?
I've learned that time does some work. Over months and years, the internal noise will abate. But meanwhile, any tips? Sarah-in-head hacks?