Harsh statement
I just terminated at 17 weeks yesterday at a large hospital out of state. When I woke up from anesthesia, I immediately started crying because I realized my baby was gone and with my eyes still closed I asked, “where is the baby?” The nurse who had woken me up just said bluntly, “they’ll dispose of the remains.” It felt like such a harsh statement during a really vulnerable moment. I just continued crying and she called my husband to pick me up saying, “she’s very emotional.” I feel like it would have helped if she had simply said, “they’ll take care of the baby.” Or something. I keep replaying that moment in my head and it’s triggering all of these horrible thoughts. I already opted to have my baby cremated at an outside facility and I understand a random nurse at a large hospital taking care of a caseload of people recovering from different surgeries isn’t going to know that. Anyway, I don’t know why I’m posting this. I’ve got no one to talk to about this. Am I being too sensitive? Don’t say so if you think that. I will cut you. Just looking for comfort and understanding. I never read about the procedure and aftermath in depth because it was too overwhelming. Do they really just throw your baby away like garbage.