u/fakename137

I've inherited a project from someone else (documentary) and have my first real situation with unrealistic and unreasonable expectations from my boss (director/producer/editor). After having previously done some work with him as his assistant editor and editing smaller projects. For example, on a related project I made 10 or so 5 minute scenes for a live show. This project however is much larger in scale and it seems like he is not reflecting that in what he expects. For one, I've come in half way, basically had to reorganise and start from fresh which isn't being reflected in any timescales, but he seems to expect me to be able to hit deadlines which are basically impossible given as I am only contracted to to work for him 3 days a week (for context in that time I am being asked to basically finish and foley nearly an entire 40 min episode which I think is pretty unreasonable, especially to do to a high quality). I think the main problem is that I am constantly being asked to show my work with shorter deadlines which really negatively affects the amount of time I have as it forces me to break up my workflow (for example, I would normally wait to do a lot of things after when I'm completely happy with the story but I feel I have to instead do a lot of the tedious things earlier which obviously sets me back if it has to change). I've tried before explaining that there is going to be some sort of trade off to working at speed in the quality that I can produce, but because I am very much the junior in this situation it feels like I have very little fightback. Would anyone have any feedback because I'm still new to this career and want to know how I can deal with this.

My therapist is not helpful to me, she only makes me angrier basically all she does is listen to me talk. She doesn't give me any help or advice. I want a new therapist but the last time I swapped therapist it was her who told me I needed a new one rather than me. How do I go about telling her I don't want her? And will she recommend something to me?

I'm on my second therapist now, and she doesn't really do anything other than tell me the obvious and regurgitate back what I say but in an airy-fairy buzzword way.

My last therapist said I was too confused by the stuff she was saying, so she told me to get a new one. The new one though just doesn't seem to do anything, our sessions are just me having a talk and then she will come out with something like "it seems like a lot of issues". On our first session I told her I was quite a goal oriented person and that I work best when I am working towards something when she asked me how I would imagine it working, but nothing she has done has been for this, she doesn't even give me suggestions for things to do or look into. I've brought it up to her that she hasn't actually done anything that I couldn't have figured out, and she just said that she couldn't help me with what to do because she isn't me, but she's the expert so what is it she's meant to be doing if it isn't helping me, I told her on the first day that I especially didn't like the "true answers are found within" or "you will come to the solution in your own time" method because that threw me off last time.

I also think that theres a bit of a disconnect because we're so different. She's probably in her 60s and I'm a guy in my early twenties, it just feels like I'd struggle to get my issues across because of the differences between us.

Having had two bad experiences, I'm kind of at the point where I'm considering sacking it all off or taking anti-depressants because my last therapist offered them to me but I said no. I feel as though at least then I don't have to deal with pointless meetings because it just doesn't seem to work for me.

Me and my partner are both early 20s, but I realised we have different relationships to our parent’s accents. I’m from Rotherham and have a much stronger South Yorkshire accent than my parents, saying stuff like Reyt or missing out the. Whereas she’s from Walsall area and her parents have the typical Black Country accent and she speaks in a very general British accent similar to RP, saying things like Barth and Parth.

Made me think, what are your accents like compared to your parents?

A big thing I think with our differing accent trajectories is probably class. My parents are both from working class backgrounds but I was definitely raised in a middle class home (obviously class is not just financial but I think over the passage of a generation to another it can change). My parents definitely fall into that category of liking to appear very middle class, and have also had jobs that have seen them moved around a lot (although they are both from rotherham), so have probably lost a lot of their accent, whereas I have spent most my life around others with a South Yorkshire accent (as is the case with a lot of middle class teens, my accent probably got stronger in secondary, probably because I moved from a small village school to a larger school in a town). In contrast, my girlfriend was raised working class and her parents have mostly worked in the area, her mum and even her much younger sister have definite Black Country accents that I struggle to understand. We also went to quite different schools, her school was probably a bit more in a middle class area whereas mine was very much your stereotypical run down mining town. It’s a bit or a weird one.

I think it’s also interesting to look at our parents ages. My parents are around their sixties whereas hers are in their early forties, I find a lot of our differences come from that.

But all that being said, do you have a stronger or weaker regional accent than your parents or their generation?

I've posted before about struggling with therapy and I've now realised what I want from it. I've been told I'm not good for Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and will be moving onto something my therapist has referred to as general counselling. What I really think I need though is something where the therapist is 100% honest with you and tells you how to feel better. The thing I've disliked the most about therapy is this whole thing where the therapist clearly knows what is the issue but waits for you to figure it out, and I think that I just don't work that way. It's like a game and I'm not good at it, I work best with "here is the issue" and "here is how you change that" instructions. The whole waiting for me to come up with things just feels like a waste of time and makes me feel terrible because I can't do it. Listening to myself and doing what I think is needed has led to a miserable life, so someone like a pro being honest with me is what I need. Is there anything like that? I'm meeting my current therapist in the next few days so she can not have me anymore but if there is something like that I'd love to bring it up to her

Also, I'm not very familiar with many of the terms associated with therapy, and when I've posted here before a lot of the answers have been really confusing to me, so please if you answer can you try and dumb it down for me. Thanks.

My therapist of a few months has said that she doesn't think I'm suited to Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and wants me to stop it and do what she has called General Counselling. It really upset me as I thought I was doing well but apparently not (despite doing all the tasks and feeling much better for it). What are the kind of differences between the two, I imagine Counselling is the kind of laying on a sofa traditional therapy that I see in the movies, but is that right. Also, what might I have done wrong for her to feel this way, I went into my last session really happy and came out of it sad and feeling like I had made no progress.

It seems too perfectly lined up.

I'm wanting to get into coaching some youth rugby, and wanted to know if anyone had any advice or way to help me out with it.

Basically, after playing rugby for most my life (I'm 23) , I'm struggling to get back into it due to the fitness side (got an underlying knee injury that makes it painful when I run, compiled with a lot of previous broken bones that have put me out of action for a long time and really bad asthma). I'm also finding that adult rugby isn't my favourite due to a lot of the culture behind it.

I still want to be a part of it however and coaching seems like something good as when I think about how much the volunteer coaches impacted on my life, it seems like something for me (I'm also going some personal issues at the moment and wanting to find something rewarding to do). I've also always been told that I'd make a good teacher and have worked with kids before.

At the moment I've reached out to my local club to volunteer giving them a hand. Having read up on it I see you need a qualification to do formal coaching, and that's something I'd like to do in the future. I used to also be a ref whilst at uni so have let them know about that, but wanted to know a few things:

• Do people generally coach even if they don't have a kid in the team?
• What else will I need, I imagine a DBS and some health and safety training?
• How did other people get into coaching?
• People who do coach, do you enjoy it?
• Is the coaching qualification as badly organised as Refereeing, because that was like trying to pull teeth?

My therapist of a few weeks has set me a task where I identify rules and then have to change them, but I don't want to because they're my rules that I have for reasons. I have always been a structure-driven person and I don't want to not have rules that I go by in my life because that is very important for me. It also seems like getting rid of these rules would impact me negatively, like one is to have high standards in things like my house, if I was to relax that I would live somewhere which is untidy and dirty, something I wouldn't enjoy because a clean house is something I value a lot. It just seems like this task is trying to change me but not taking into account my values because at the end of the day I have set myself these rules in regards to what I value the most.

Hi, I'm constantly being rejected from jobs (primary) a year after leaving university.

I must have applied to countless places and I have probably had at least twenty or so interviews (this has picked up since the start of the year recently so clearly I've gotten better with applications) its now at the point where I've had so many interviews that my current work (SEND Teaching assistant) has said that I can't have anymore paid days off for interviews (is this allowed also, just wanted to check).

Whilst I do like my current job, its not what I really want to do and the opportunities to progress are limited despite what work keep telling me as they've rejected me twice applying for teaching roles (makes sense as why pay teacher wage when you can pay TA wage). I'm just really down from it as a lot of my friends from university have teaching jobs.

I have three interviews coming up in the next few weeks which I'm hopeful for, but does anyone have any advice for dealing with the constant rejection as it just feels like no matter how hard I try it doesn't work out.

I try and get as much as possible from unsuccessful interviews but a lot of them just give "lack of experience" as the reason. I'm especially sad about one recently where I was told at the last interview I was second choice and when I asked for feedback they said it was faultless, but then I applied for another job there and wasn't even shortlisted.

If anyone could help it would mean a lot to me, I'm just really down from the whole experience and wanted to know if anyone had any advice for dealing with it.

Thanks for any help, it would mean a lot.

I'm an assistant editor working on a big multipart documentary made by a small team. I've been working on it since the start of the year and it's getting to the stage now where it's almost done. The director/editor of it though wants to use a lot of generative ai as B-roll for the project to cover some of the parts that we can't get footage of and I really don't think it's the way to go.

I imagine that it is a popular opinion here that generative ai is bad, and I don't want to be associated with it, especially as I'm very early in my career. As someone who mostly edits, I feel as though it completely ruins it because editing is all about taking what you have and making something from it, rather than making your own stuff to add it. The thing is is that they have some genuinely amazing and cool looking footage but seem hell-bent on using ai (I've read up on it and this seems common amongst a lot of bosses) even though its uncreative and devoid of anything (I couldn't think of anything to finish this sentence, but I feel that actually sums it up quite well, devoid of literally anything).

I'm just very conflicted about what I can do. On one hand I don't like the way this is going, I don't want to be associated with ai as it's against my principals, but I can't quit as I need a job. I'm going to try and push the project as far away from this as possible, but does anyone have any advice for me?