Genuinely wondering how to get anything done around the house with a newborn?
FTM 10 week pp and exclusively breastfeeding
I usually take care of our 10 week old boy all day while my husband takes up the 11 PM to 2 AM shift to watch over our boy as he sleeps (light sleeper so we usually have to rock him back to sleep between sleep cycles)
I am feeling so tired and overwhelmed all day, especially on days that our boy doesn’t sleep well or cluster feeds. I don’t do anything much around the house except cook meals but I feel like I haven’t had a downtime at all and whenever the baby sleeps I either sleep (which is not much since he wakes up a lot needing to be rocked back to sleep) or cook meals.
My husband does the other chores around the house like dishwashing, laundry, groceries and garbage handling. He works a full time job but works from home so there no time lost to commute. He does have some time to relax occasionally but he is overwhelmed and tired too and I feel like I cannot ask him more help especially on high demand days.
We only do what is absolutely required for us to survive. Is there anyway I can help him or he can help me? What are we doing wrong? Or are we simply lazy?
Note: I had a very bad first few weeks as I both recovered and took care of the baby full time with no help for the baby, me or the house. I had the talk with my husband and he did step up after but that exhaustion has only grown even with help around the house now from my husband.