u/flutterdance

My husband and I have a pre-conception consultation tomorrow with a new MFM for a second, more informed opinion.

We sadly had to TFMR Sept 2025 because our baby boy was diagnosed with Trisomy 18. We have been told by several of my doctors that it was more than likely just a “fluke” however we still feel uneasy (which I realize is normal to feel after such a traumatic experience).

Prior to my previous TFMR pregnancy we did do the Natera pre-conception genetic screening which thankfully indicated no matches between my husband and me. We met with a genetic counselor and physician to discuss these results.

What am I trying to get out of this meeting tomorrow? Reassurance that my husband and I are doing all of the right things to prepare for TTC again. Also to boost our confidence because it is truly scary. I am turning 38 this year (husband is turning 35) so yes, my age is also definitely weighing on me.

Anyway, just came here to see what kind of questions I should ask the MFM physician. I already have a couple jotted down, but would like to cross reference and add to my list if needed.

The last time we met with MFM it was such a blur.

Thank you in advance🙏🏻

A little 7 months out post TFMR due to our baby boy being diagnosed with T18. I had a D&E at 14 weeks 4 days.

I suppose I am one of the few who has been incredibly not anxious about TTC again even though I am 37 turning 38 this year (and have no LC). I always wanted children, but now I find myself on the fence some days. I thought I would be in a better place by now in regards to TTC again but I am honestly terrified. I know my husband would like to try again and I would love to see him as a father. Yes I am in therapy and working through these emotions and we’re also going to be meeting with a pre-conception counselor again soon. Having a baby is constantly on my mind and I don’t want to miss out on potentially having one just because of my fear. The whole TFMR experience was just so heartbreaking and traumatizing as you all unfortunately know too. I wouldn’t wish this experience on my worst enemy.

How did you find the courage again?