Cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel
I am in the process of divorcing my malignant narcissist soon to be ex-husband of 15 years though in a relationship for 24 years. When I found out I was in a trauma bond, I began to fight my way out. I filed for divorce in 2021, he got on his knees, begged and cried and asked me to stay and he would change. I rescinded the divorce. (Big mistake). Fast forward 2025, I get myself together enough to take another go at it. In other words, do it afraid without all of the answers. Before I filed he seemed like he may be willing to negotiate custody of our 14 yr old son. Once I filed everything changed, he said he wanted 100% custody and that I should "take him to court". I filed in July 2025 and I am still waiting on a court as it has been moved 4 times. He would not produce interragatories and had to be compelled. He turned in half answered info in discovery. He showed up at the default hear and Judge gave him more time and moved our court date. He fired his first lawyer after threatening her, and the Judge reset the court date again for his new attry to get up to speed. So I have been chasing his chaos and he is just now entering the process but still with chaos. My lawyer sent settlement offer and there was no response from first lawyer and now none from the second one so far. I would like to avoid trial. The issue is I am gray rock with him which has allowed me enough peace to live in the same house with him while all of this plays out. He told his neice months ago he was not concerned with finding another place to live because he is comfortable. I need to know what I can do to get some progress out of this situation to avoid additional financial and emotional drainage.