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Looking to establish a pitch floor. Every study I can find only reports average speaking fundamental frequency or lowest pitch used in singing. The clinical guide by Adler et al. (2019) mentions that says the average person uses a range of 12 ± 2 semitones in conversation, but we can’t assume from that that the pitch floor is just going to be the F0 minus 5~7 semitones.

I’ve been in a monogamous relationship for around a decade, and it’s been largely very stable and healthy. It recently became clear that there is a messy love triangle situation happening, which has exposed a lot of issues in my relationship that I hadn’t recognized.

Many of these issues relate directly to our experiences as queer people, especially baggage internalized from homophobic and transphobic narratives which makes it hard for us to express attraction without feeling predatory. I also have been feeling that, because I transitioned in this relationship, I’ve only ever really been myself in the context of this relationship, and I kinda don’t know what I like or what I want or anything.

Because of the above concerns, I freaked the fuck out this past week and almost broke up with my partner. Thankfully clearer heads prevailed, but I think we need outside help. I want to try couples’ counseling, but I’m worried about finding a therapist who will understand queerness in the right way to work well with us. I guess I’m looking for reassurance that couples’ counseling works for queer people who have issues that stem from our queerness?

Hi! Wanted to share my experience on Strattera so far. First, demographics: I’m a mid-20s trans woman in grad school. Probably autistic but not diagnosed. Previously tried Zoloft (sertraline) for anxiety but found it didn’t really change anything except my libido. Got DXed with ADHD a couple years ago and tried methylphenidate at different release rates and then Adderall XR, but they all tended to exacerbate my anxiety and suppress my appetite, plus they’re contraindicated because I have blood pressure issues. I started atomoxetine last week.

Given it’s not a stimulant, I was surprised to find that it made me jittery and fucked with my appetite for just under a week, leveling out a few days ago. I feel normal in those regards.

The weirder part has been the mood effects. I have a history of suicidal ideation, so I was worried it could trigger that, which thankfully hasn’t happened, but I do feel like everything has been magnified. I’ve been more easily frustrated and thrown off by stuff not going according to plan. More anxious about the state of my graduate work. But most of all, I’ve been *way* more affectionate and affection-seeking with my best friend that I live with (tbf ppl already think we’re dating sometimes bc we’re fairly touchy). It’s kind of unsettling because it makes me feel like I need to be skeptical of any positive feelings toward them, like it could be artificial.

Haven’t seen the benefits so far, not that I expected to. I did maybe feel more focused while writing last weekend, but I’m guessing that’s placebo.