u/foxesandflower

Hi all!

My 9 month old and I practice attachment parenting. I am a SAHM, we EBF, and baby wear. Surprisingly though, she’s incredibly independent!

She room shared with me until 6 months. Never had an issue with the bassinet or crib, I think she liked her own space as long as she could see me. Due to family pressure, I transitioned her to her own room at 6 months. She never really cried or had an issue with it. No sleep training, wakes up once or twice night to nurse.

Now I wake up 3 times a night to go check on her. I hate being apart from her. I’m anxious though so I won’t co sleep because I worry about SIDS or hurting her.

Now onto the question— should I keep with my unicorn sleeper or can I just bring her back into my bed at a year old? Is it safe? Can co sleeping benefit a toddler?

Hi all!

I just started a wonderful nannying position in which I get to bring along my child while I watch another child around the same age. It’s been fantastic. Both kiddos are laid back, the parents are kind and the same age as me, and it’s been overall a dream situation. I make about 2 bucks under market rate for my area, which is fine by me because I get the privilege of bringing my child along and being with them 24/7.

When I first made my post ISO of work, I explained in the post I would be willing to offer a small discount. I got eaten alive by both parents and other nannies.

I had parents sending me offers well below market rate despite the fact I have a bachelors in education, CPR/AED, a teaching license, and a postpartum doula certificate. I also had worked as a nanny before becoming a mother so I had stellar references. When I would explain that my discounted rate was a discount for an adult career nanny, parents would get very mad and send nasty messages for “false advertising.” Mind you, these were people with 3-4 children offering me minimum wage. I was not about to watch 5 children for the amount of money I could make at chipotle.

On the flip side other nannies were messaging me telling me I was discrediting the entire industry and that I should charge MORE for socialization. Mind you, the kiddos in question are not at an age where they do anything beyond parallel play and the “socialization” thing is basically a myth for under 3s. One person told me I should charge a minimum of 45/hr for 1 child. As a parent myself, I thought that was insane, as I’m offering 2 to 1 care, not 1:1, and there are times where my attention is divided.

Now that the dust has settled and I found the situation that, to me, is perfect and reasonable, I am curious what other nannies think. I’ve been lurking on the Nanny parents sub and they are VERY anti nanny kids, which I don’t really understand. Personally, if I was a parent looking for care, I’d prefer another mom at a slight discount.

Hello all! I just picked up a 3X a week nannying job, and it’s lovely. While searching the boards for another nannying position for my other 2 workdays, I came across a flexible household manager job that fit my hours and threw my hat in the ring.

To my surprise after the phone screen, I was offered a working interview!

I’ve never done this job before, but I am a mother and I have worked as a mid level corporate manager for a team of 60 before I stepped down to be with my daughter more. I’m very detail oriented and I find household work and organization soothing.

She said she was not interested in childcare, but moreso getting things done around the house. Sometimes that will be assigned tasks other times that will be looking at what needs to be done and just doing it. The position is only about 10 hours a week, which aligns perfectly with my schedule needs.

With that being said, what are some tips you have for acing the working interview? What are some boundaries I would want to set in a contract?

Hi all!

I’m currently trying to move our family towards a more ancestral diet and I’m not sure where to start. For reference, I was vegan for 6 years and don’t know much about cooking meat. I’m very overwhelmed and also a little grossed out by most animal products. I also have texture issues with bones.

Additionally, my 8 month old is doing baby led weaning right now, and I’ve really only consistently given her banana, avocado, and sweet potato. I don’t want her to develop allergies or become a picky eater, so I know I need to broaden our range of foods on her menu.

What are some easy meals you’d suggest under these circumstances? What kinds of animal based foods do you introduce with baby led weaning?

Hi all!

I was interviewing for several positions and a nannying family gave me an offer. I told them I would need time to think about it, but they wanted an answer before they went on vacation. I was hesitant because the job was severely underpaying (21/hr for two kids in a HCOL area) but a bit desperate since my other options weren’t working out.

I accepted the offer on the last possible day, then 6 days later got a much better offer. Not wanting the first family to be lost without care, I let them know as soon as possible that I wouldn’t be able to work for them. For context, from first conversation to rejection, I had not even known the family 2 weeks, never watched their children, never even completed a background check for them, etc.

The mom proceeded to send me a long rant about how I wasn’t professional and completely screwed them over finding care. She told me I’d broken trust and that trust was important in “my industry.” Which I agree, but I didn’t feel like we really had time to build trust with one another.

I’m honestly looking for advice. While of course it upset me to receive that message, I also want to make sure I don’t do this to clients in the future. I felt terrible accepting the offer then rescinding, but if I’d taken the offer I would’ve needed to go on food stamps to survive. For reference, the first family told me 21/hr was pushing it and they’d paid their last nanny 17/hr.

Am I in the wrong here? How would you have handled this situation?

Hi all! I’m a SAHM, but I’m going to start working as a nanny a few days a week. I’m planning to pack lunches for myself and maybe some BLW foods for my daughter.

We are very particular about eating healthy. We try to avoid seed oils and gluten.

I want to make some lunch meat based lunches like ham and cheese roll ups. I’m in the United States. Are there some healthier lunch meats you recommend? What other lunches would you suggest?

Back before I became a mom I did a lot of fruit and cheese boxes, but they got old after a while.

Hi everyone!

I am the mother to a beautiful 8 month old and with her delivery I was able to have the unmedicated birth of my dreams (in part because of the info on this sub). It was an incredibly smooth delivery and honestly painless until 8cm. I easily could have labored at home until transition.

I’m not pregnant yet but I’m curious on your opinion. For my next labor, should I consider a home birth?

For context, my first birth was 6 hours, and my mother had 2 precipitous births. Her labor with me was 3 hours, and labor with my sister was 45 minutes. Both her and my midwife think I might go full on precipitous for the next birth and it might be worthwhile for me to plan for a home birth.

Mamas with fast labors, was your second faster?

Hello everyone!

I’m a converted Christian, and used to be a micro influencer in the new age/pagan world. When I got saved and baptized, I found new life in Christ and gave up my social media to follow Him. Largely, it’s been amazing, I have a great church family and read my Bible daily. I’ve been in the faith for the past 2 years. And more than anything I feel significantly happier and more fulfilled giving up my life to God opposed to trying to worship myself. Following Jesus has been more freeing than restrictive.

This is quite minor and maybe a little stupid, but I’ve never really shook my “witchy” aesthetic. I love nature and herbs, I kept my crystals for their beauty when I gave up all my other witchcraft stuff, and I miss celebrating the changing of the seasons. I don’t fit the “christian girl” aesthetic, and sometimes it makes me feel like an outsider.

Is it wrong to feel this way? Can I have the aesthetic/look of a non Christian and still follow Christ?