u/freepalestinefr

I just got a contract job (派遣) as an end user support in IT.

This is my 2nd job, and my first contract job. I was in a perm role so I took the leap for the extra money.

I notice, in my old job I did like 10 tickets a day. Now I barely do 2. If its busy, 5 will come.

I'm starting to wonder if they even need me.. I haggled the salary since I got 2 job offers. And it's a new IT environment for me so I would obviously ask questions.

But due to me asking questions, I may seem "clueless" at my job. They didnt even do orientation, nor a explanation of the IT environment. I was expected to sink or swim right away. If I ask they would answer, sure.

But I'm worried if I seem not fit for the role and salary..

Will they not extend the contract over this..?

I obviously solve the tickets by myself, but there are different methods that I have no clue about due to the different environment.. I'm just worried they would think they're wasting their money for someone clueless.

Its a 6 month contract which would be renewed

Any advice?

I've had multiple convos with multiple people that seems to resent their partner and their kids.

They always say "must be nice that you get the freedom.."

But they always forget that it's a choice to have kids.

I feel like more often than not, people think having kids is the default. And because it is the default, they don't think long and hard about the consequences of their actions. They will end up hating their partner and kids for this.

My 50yo coworker always goes on about how little time he has for his own hobbies. He bashes his wife often and from what I can tell resents her and the kids a little.

In my head all I could think of but not say is "you cant resent the consequences of the choices you made"

I've met a lot of people like this. They would say all the thinks they hate about their spouses and kids, but when I say "I'm childfree" they suddenly say "but why??????????"

Like mf look at you, you're the reason why..!!!

Specifically the one they used a lot for the artemis II edits.

Pleaseee I need to sleep but I cant stop thinking about it

I notice a lot of the time in adult friendships and meeting people, I meet a certain type of friends.

The friend who would tell people what you told them in private, who goes out of their way to meddle themselves in your business, at the end of the day it was "for you" so it's okay.

For example in my friendgroup I have this one girl who is very friendly with everyone. I really like hanging out with her. One day, I told her, I find the guy in my friendgroup really cute, but it's not a crush, just found him attractive.

she wENT OUT OF HER WAY TO TELL HIM THAT AND TOLD HIM TO ASK ME OUT ON A DATE. I found out later on when I was in a date with him that she told him to do that..

Another time, I had another friend who I also really like to hang out with. We're in the same workplace. And I would talk to her about all the shit going on that I dislike. .... guess what? sHE TOLD MY BOSS AND MY BOSS PULLED ME ASIDE SAYING HE'S SORRY AND I DONT HAVE TO DO IT.

Look... these people are very well intentioned. They like me enough to try to do these things for me. But clearly they don't respect me to consult me before doing these things.

I mentioned it to them but they were like "ohhh :((( it wasnt my intention..." yeah I know, but you're an adult you should know what and what not to say to others if people trusted you on it.

At the end of the day they're still my friends, I hang out with them for fun.. but that's it. We're "hang out friends" but nothing more, but I don't tell them ANYTHING. Literally.

They're not bad people per se, but they're bad with boundaries. And to me, if you cross them, you will see the consequences of your own actions. In this case the consequence is that you will not have the same access to my life like you did.

They told me that they're bummed I don't speak about my life as often, but even if I told them not to tell people, they still do, so I won't trust them.

You are grown enough to know what you are doing, and I won't be there to educate you EVERYSINGLE TIME. Once was enough and if you do it again, then it's on you.

I like them as someone to hang out when I'm bored, but they are not someone I can count on.

Is there anyone like this in your life?