u/frmrsdghtr05

I have been married for over 20 years. We have a bunch of kids together and a fantastic, healthy marriage. He loves the Lord and leads our family so well. One area that we have never aligned is our sexual frequency preferences. He is totally content with once a month. I prefer twice a week. As soon as you say that, people assume an affair, pornography, low T, illness, SSA or a bad marriage. In my case I can confidently say that none of those have ever applied in 20 years. This pattern of frequency has been consistent (besides the first six or so months of marriage) for our entire marriage. We are both fit and healthy. We have great sex. I have given up trying to make him someone he’s not, and have worked on myself so that I no longer take it personally. It is just who he is. I‘m not even sure why I’m posting this except that I have never really read a similar scenario here. Sometimes it makes me think something is wrong with us. So maybe if you are reading this and your sex life doesn't fit what’s considered ‘normal’ standards know that it’s okay. I am still a happy wife in a happy marriage.