Stress/burnout for women in tech vs. men - why?
I've been wondering why there seems to be more experiences of burnout/quitting due to stress among women in tech versus men in tech.
I recognize there are many women who have fulfilling careers in tech and feel their work environment is sustainable and supportive. So I am by no means suggesting that that this is the experience for all women in tech.
What I notice though is that for women in tech, burnout/stress seems to be cited often as a result of overwork, relentless deadlines, grind culture, etc. These are things that impact men just as much, but they don't seem to cite burnout/stress as much or in the same way.
This issue seems to be true even for women who don't cite gender disparity/discrimination as the core issue for them - while I'm sure this is a significant contributing factor even unconsciously, it doesn't seem like it's the main/only driver.
Are men just not admitting that the stress takes a toll on them, and they're coping quietly with the same issues, just suppressed? Or do they have some way of seeing the grind/pressure as "worth it" or intrinsically rewarding in ways that women aren't conditioned into buying into?
I sometimes see a level of grind/pressure pursued by male colleagues in tech that seems almost like a desire to work hard for the sake of being perceived as working hard - so much so that they're even somewhat content to work for a failing startup or declining company without being as fazed by it because the grind is still sort of energizing for them in some ways?
tl;dr do men in tech experience less stress, or are they suppressing their experiences of stress? Or are they conditioned to perceive stressful work as a kind of end in itself (whereas women do not)?