I've lived in a couple of places in Kits and in both cases there were neighbors that were very clearly only occupying their home seasonally. The rest of the year it would be lights off.
I mean I love Kits but I didn't think of it as a "summer home" location, figured the Sunshine Coast or Gulf islands make more sense for that.
Is this a thing?
Anyone here a daughter to a narcissist dad?
Did you grow up pressured to be interested in the same things as him? Or kind of ashamed of female-leaning interests?
I'm only realizing as an adult that I was kind of warped into embracing more male interests because of my dad, and that these weren't natural for me. As I've been recovering I'm noticing I have a lot more fun with female-type interests than I realized, a lot of stuff I kind of sidelined growing up.
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I.e. did your parent expect you to be athletic while being a couch potato themselves?
Or expect you to be rich/successful when they're poor?
Or expect you to be happily married when they're divorced?
Or expect you to be highly educate when they're not?
I've been wondering why there seems to be more experiences of burnout/quitting due to stress among women in tech versus men in tech.
I recognize there are many women who have fulfilling careers in tech and feel their work environment is sustainable and supportive. So I am by no means suggesting that that this is the experience for all women in tech.
What I notice though is that for women in tech, burnout/stress seems to be cited often as a result of overwork, relentless deadlines, grind culture, etc. These are things that impact men just as much, but they don't seem to cite burnout/stress as much or in the same way.
This issue seems to be true even for women who don't cite gender disparity/discrimination as the core issue for them - while I'm sure this is a significant contributing factor even unconsciously, it doesn't seem like it's the main/only driver.
Are men just not admitting that the stress takes a toll on them, and they're coping quietly with the same issues, just suppressed? Or do they have some way of seeing the grind/pressure as "worth it" or intrinsically rewarding in ways that women aren't conditioned into buying into?
I sometimes see a level of grind/pressure pursued by male colleagues in tech that seems almost like a desire to work hard for the sake of being perceived as working hard - so much so that they're even somewhat content to work for a failing startup or declining company without being as fazed by it because the grind is still sort of energizing for them in some ways?
tl;dr do men in tech experience less stress, or are they suppressing their experiences of stress? Or are they conditioned to perceive stressful work as a kind of end in itself (whereas women do not)?