u/fxcknmami

24F. I have ADHD and struggle in social situations. I care deeply about what other people think of me (especially men) and I replay interactions for days afterward if I think they went badly. I also constantly monitor myself.

I tend to fill every silence because anxiety makes me uncomfortable with pauses. When I’m around someone I’m interested in, I often cringe at things I’ve said and feel embarrassed for even speaking. I’m confident approaching people, but I struggle to maintain conversations, build relationships, and form genuine connections.

I have no close friends, and it’s starting to weigh heavily on me.

In more intimate settings, like dates, I’m constantly monitoring and overthinking everything I say instead of being present. I feel self-conscious whenever I speak, as if I sound stupid, yet I keep talking because I’m anxious. It’s almost like I’m either too aware of myself or not aware enough of what I’m saying in the moment.

I also tend to speak before I’ve fully thought things through. Because of my ADHD, I sometimes need extra time to process what someone has said, but conversations move quickly. As a result, I often miss opportunities to respond thoughtfully or ask deeper questions.

This has left me feeling like people don’t like me or don’t find value in being around me. Even when someone opens up to me, my responses can feel shallow or automatic because I’m still processing what they’ve shared. I want to connect with people more deeply, but I often feel like my anxiety, overthinking, and ADHD get in the way. It’s literally ruining my life and self esteem.

First timer here. Really contemplating living in my car to get out of survival - SoCal area

As a new sitter on the platform, which membership plan should i choose and why?

You can make beet juice or you can make art ✨

Those of you who were once extremely insecure, how did you overcome it?

any promo codes?