u/galumphix

I've seen a number of posts from people looking for technical co-founders. I've got one - he's my romantic AND business partner, and has 30 years of programming experience. We've been working together on an app for 6 months (I'll post here when we launch).

He told me he gets pings on LinkedIn from people looking for technical help all the time. None of them pay, and none of them have MVPs. "At least vibe code something!" he said.

I find I agree with him - to be taken seriously, you need to have something that shows you've put some work into your idea. If you want a tech person to think your idea is good enough to work on it for cheap or free, you need to show it's good by putting hours in first.

I'll also add that I've been to several AI and startup networking events in my city and there are plenty of out of work coders who are project-curious. I bet those would be great places to show off a prototype or MVP to recruit someone. There are a million on Meetup - even virtual ones. Give 'em a try!

I hate FIFA and don't want to give them a dime more than I have through watching the myriad ads during matches. I want to get a Mexico jersey, support a local business, and definitely don't want official merch. Where can I find a WC shirt locally?

First, thanks for the amazing support on my post last week about finding the world around us spectacularly stupid (it's not the menopause! People are really dumb!). Y'all made me smile - several times.

Follow-up question: what do you mean when you say you have no more f*cks to give? Here are two possibilities I observed from the discussion, but maybe you have another one to share? Which are you?

1. I don't GAF about what people think about me. I'm going to have unpopular opinions and I'm going to say them.

2. I don't GAF about the world. I'm checked out and going about my life.

I realized that for me, it's #1. I stopped caring what people think, honestly, because I'm far more certain when I have a strong opinion about something. I don't usually need to tell strangers about it, but if it comes up, I might offer that unpopular opinion.

Unfortunately, this has caused additional frustration at work and probably cost me a friend or two (newer ones only; my old pals know what I'm like!).

So yeah, menopause not-giving-a f*ck has meant I'm far more sassy.

I'd like to figure out how to translate NGAF #1 (sassy) to NGAF #2 (shrugging), though, because I do lose sleep over shit I've said. Just because I'm willing to share an unpopular opinion about a certain thing doesn't mean I don't still want people to like me....and this is why I need drugs. Sigh.

I have super straight super fine lameass, shoulder length untreated hair. If I don't use product at the roots, it's flat flat flat.

I was traveling Greece last November when my can o' travel mousse ran out. The only mousse I could find was for curly hair. I've been using it ever since. It is absolutely no different from the mousse I buy at home in Washington state for fine hair.

My thought: it really doesn't matter! Experiment!

https://preview.redd.it/sub4cis7lr5h1.jpg?width=1512&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=594fcaafea0bfb1bf06d9e0fbc4aaa43f2ef53b5

OK, I'm overstating it a bit. But my patience for stupidity (already low to begin with) is at an all-time low and I would like some help identifying if the problem is me or if people really are getting more annoying.

I work hard to be in a better mood (friends! exercise! chocolate! stoicism!), but damn the world keeps bringing the dumb. Next steps are looking into happy meds, actually doing meditation (instead of thinking I will), upping my exercise hours to most of the day, or burning everything down. Before I do one or more of those things, can you tell me if these are legit dumb situations that are worthy of me medicating myself to survive?

- When the professional constituent services staffer insisted on talking over me and calling me ma'am (over and over) even when I asked her not to.

- When a young pro-democracy activist sowed division in my (mostly older) pro-democracy activist group.

- When a gent in a luxury car nearly whacked me and my dogs as we crossed a neighborhood street.

- When the US government installs vastly underqualified, sycophantic paranoid men in positions of great power.

Maybe yesterday was just a bad day. Maybe I'm sensitive. Maybe I need to move to a cave.

Anyway, thanks for listening.

Edit: y'all rock. Thank you. And not just for the commiseration, but also for not calling out my dumb typo in the post subject line. <<forehead slap>>