Worried about not being able to provide my children the same childhood I had.
This is one factor in my fencesitting and I’m curious about how others have thought about this topic/dealt with it.
My husband and I are 29. My parents had me when they were 31. When I was a kid, we had a huge farmhouse and land, that my parents bought for $36k in 1995. My parents did not go to college, and worked what I’d call “normal” jobs with normal hours. I spent a lot of time with my grandparents, aunt, and cousins. They never went through unemployment, not even in 2008. We were not wealthy but had no financial anxiety. Vacations were local road trips and camping, we had a lot of stuff to do on the farm, etc.
My husband and I are both college educated but I doubt we will able to obtain the level of material wealth and job stability my parents had at our age. I graduated college in 2019 and everything has been chaotic since then. We are working on buying a house but what we can afford is tiny without much room to run around. There will also be no local cousins for our kids (husbands siblings are childfree), and there’s some family drama between my parents and the grandparents and they don’t speak anymore. That one has nothing to do with me but it still is unfortunate.
Does anyone feel this way? I feel kind of guilty not being able to provide this kind of childhood to my kids, even if most of it isn’t my fault.