If your parents are begging you to come back home and you’re thinking of doing so, please read this:
This is specifically for those of you who have moved out and are now living alone.
We all know how manipulative African parents can be.
It’s why despite my mother begging me to come back home several times, I always refused. I blocked her months ago and haven’t spoken to her or anyone else in my family ever since.
On the 7th of July 2026, it will officially be a year since I moved out. My life is not perfect - I was homeless for 4 months before I eventually found a place to stay. I’ve been in therapy, taken medication and my partner has supported me tons. But there are still moments where the depression hits me like a truck.
On to the more positive side of things - I’m going back to uni this October and next year, I’m planning to start my teacher training. Teachers in Scotland get paid quite well. Or at least, far better than teachers in England. I’ve never been the materialistic type which explains why I gave up my dad’s dream of me becoming a lawyer just so that I can pursue my passion for teaching but it’s a nice little bonus.
Life has been immensely stressful, especially without the money from my parents which would make things a million times easier but going back home is the last thing I would do.
My mum was arrested the day I left. She’s never going to forget about that. She would always talk to me “sweetly” on the phone but I’m not stupid enough to fall for it. I’ve lived with her my whole life. She is an extremely manipulative, abusive bully. I don’t know why but I have this terrible fear that if I go back home, my parents will either trick me into being shipped off to Nigeria or my dad will murder me. I’m not joking. He has threatened to kill me twice in the past and knowing how quick-tempered and violent he is, I’m not surprised he would actually do it.
So please be careful. I’m not trying to scare any of you. I just don’t want anything horrible to happen to you.