u/goldenvines111

I (30f) have never been in a long term relationship. I’ve put myself out there so many times but have been either lied to, cheated on, or rejected. I actually just had someone tell me today they see me more as a friend than anything romantic. I never became stressed thinking about being single at 30 or in my 30’s, but seeing everyone around me married, with kids, and living their happy lives I can’t help but feel jealous. I’ve always said I enjoy my life and freedom and have truly cultivated a life I love. The only thing missing is someone to really enjoy romantically. And I’m tired of people saying “just work on yourself” or “it happens when you least expect it.” It’s gotten to the point where I can’t even get hopeful or excited for dates because they just stress me out / I find it hard to trust any of these guys anymore. I get 30 is young in the grand scheme of things but I’m feeling so hopeless and beaten down with dating. I’m about to give up. Any help on how to navigate this? Or any words of wisdom?

I (31f) went out last night with this guy Ive basically grown up with (31m). We recently ran into each other, caught up for a minute, and exchanged numbers. We’d been texting a little over a week and decided to finally make plans. I was getting excited because I thought there was real potential, considering I’d known him a long time and our families are close. Well we went out and (I was a bundle of nerves) the chemistry wasn’t there like I thought, and I somewhat found myself bored at times? I think he did too. Where I’m proud I put myself out there, I can’t help but be disappointed and a little upset. Although I am open to hangout again considering it was a first meeting and I think the nerves took over and made it a little less enjoyable. (It’d been a while since I’d been on a date). I was also embarrassed because I don’t think I conversated as well as I know I can. I don’t know if we will hangout again at least in a date setting. How do I get over the disappointment? Or how my excitement one day completely is changed from the next? I’m taking it so personally and I’m trying to see it objectively. TIA!

I (29F) have known this guy (27m) for about ten years. We’ve reconnected and have been talking the last week and he suggested our first hangout be at his place where we’ve been talking about this one movie to watch together. I normally think that’s a red flag but I’ve also known him for a while. Is this fuckboy behavior? I’m so sick of guys only looking for sex when I want actual connection so I’d rather not even waste my time. Would love other perspectives because I also don’t want to self sabatoge.