u/gothicghostie

(i hesitated on posting this but i feel like it really
needs to be said. this isn’t a direct callout to anyone in particular, just in response to general behavior i’ve seen on here as of late)

recently i’ve been seeing a lot of posts on here about people getting upset after seeing people hate on their kin or seeing art of their kin that they don’t agree with or seeing doubles and i just want to gently say… you really should stop taking it so personally.

when these people make these posts, they don’t have *you* specifically in mind. you shouldn’t feel so attacked or uncomfortable when you see art of something NOT weird (“weird” as in nsfw art, but there’s also nothing wrong with that, really. [unless it’s art of a minor. or an asexual character.] but i completely understand being uncomfortable with seeing that, so i excluded it from my point), like genderswapped art or ship art of your kin with a sourcemate you hate / didn’t like romanticallly.

also it’s never cool to post someone else’s art just to shit on it, regardless of if it’s weird to you or doesn’t fit how you were in your canon. don’t be that person. how would you feel if you posted art of your favorite character (that you don’t kin) and someone who is fictionkin reposted it and said “omg what is *that*? that is *not* me!” pretty bad, right? when seeing art that doesn’t fit how you were, think of it as an alternate universe version of your kin.

with hate posts it’s a little different. it does feel like they can be hating on you specifically, but once again i just want to say you shouldn’t take it personally. especially on subs like the “hate this smug” sub, people hate and complain just for the “fun” of doing it. and again, these people don’t really have *you* in mind when posting those things. if i got upset at every hate post of KAngel that existed, i would literally never live a day in my life being happy. in my mind, i just view them as miserable haters who have nothing better to do than complain, and i don’t let it get me down.

last thing… stop letting inconsiderate doubles make you upset. yes, it’s not cool for someone to put “i am the one and only [x]” or “*THE* [x]” in their bio or username or something if they’re in fictionkin spaces and know a double might see them. however if you *know* that you are your kin, why let one person invalidate you and tell you what you are and aren’t?

its like telling someone you love cake and they go “oh, but i like cake so much more than you so im the only cake fan ever”. like no… i still exist as a fan of cake! even if *you* feel like you love it more than me, i still love it. now just look at that analogy with a fictkin twist on it; if you tell someone “i kin [x]” and they say (or have in their bio or whatever) “oh but i feel a stronger connection to [x] thus making me the only kin of them ever” … just laugh at it. because obviously it’s not true! no one can tell you what you are and aren’t except for yourself.

(yeah sorry that analogy was kinda buns. but i tried)

but anyway, if you keep getting so upset at seeing doubles like this that you start having a panic attack or feel so bad about something that happened with the media you kin from that you want to genuinely hurt yourself… gently, you need to step away from fictionkin spaces. it is not going to make you feel better, it’ll only make you feel worse unless you let your mental health heal a little bit.

also like… stop responding in a hostile way to people who try to help you. at that point you’re just being an asshole. if they don’t say anything rude or insulting to you, don’t be rude back. even if you’re upset by something in the moment it’s not okay to be rude to someone else because of it.

also also, some of you need to keep some vents in your drafts or notes app or with a trusted friend. specifically about art of your kin that you see and you disagree with, because then at least you’re not publicly posting it and shitting on it. 😭 it’s okay to be uncomfortable with art of your kin sometimes but again, dont make fun of it publicly.

i say all of this with no hate to anyone and with much concern. i know it’s not easy being a fictionkin sometimes, because people hate on your kin or you find weird things people say about you or something happens with your source, but you kind of have to build yourself up to a point where you can just roll your eyes and ignore it. otherwise you’ll just keep being sad over things like that.

anyway, take care of yourself! if you need a break from the sub or just general fictionkin communities online, take a break. we’ll be waiting for your return 🧬( ⁎ᵕᴗᵕ⁎ )🧬

had no idea what to tag this lowkey. mb

iive been having such heavy dysphoria lately, especially with ena and kangel. usually it happens when i see doubles, but ill get over it pretty quickly. but right now i just can’t help but feel like a faker or like im not really ena / kangel and that im just a wannabe larper. or something ,,,,

anyway,,, yeah. does anyone have any advice or something 😭