u/gravitychonky80

How often did you have help handling your twins on a daily basis?

My MIL is virtually helping us every day with our 3month old twins. I’m incredibly thankful but also feel like I shouldn’t need so much help? She works full time too so I just feel bad. She said people have made snarky comments to her about how she’s spoiling us and that we shouldn’t need her so much☹️ I hardly ever ask for help, she just does. I know I’m wrong for feeling this way most likely but love to hear how involved your “village” is.

I’m a FTM staying home with 9 week old twins. I have a lot of help, but I know it won’t always be that way. I’m worried how I’ll keep up with everything. And I’m talking bare minimum “keeping up”

What routines do you have in place that work for you. How do I fit feeding, pumping, prepping bottles, dishes, making dinner, laundry, and naps for myself in??? And when they start being more awake, I have no idea what I’ll do. All I wanna do is sleeeeep😅

Trying to figure out the best way to fit all the parts, it’s Tetris every time.

I use Dr. Browns bottles, Soectra pump parts, and Momcozy m6 wearable parts

I had twins at 31 weeks and they were in the nicu for 45 days. They are 6 weeks adjusted right now, and I’ve felt lost ever since bringing them home. My husband has returned to work, and I’m staying home with the twins. We do have a lot of help from our parents and friends which has been a huge blessing, but I’m struggling.

All we do on repeat is feed them, hold them upright on our chests (reflux), and put them back in their crib. They usually go right back down except in the evening and it can be pretty tough to get anything done because they are fussy or crying.

I’m pumping between feeds too which is so time consuming even when I’m only pumping 15 mins at at a time.

I MAYBE get one session of tummy and olay time on the playmat with them.

I feel shame for the amount of help I have, and feel like I should be able to do all the things, yet I’m still exhausted. I sleep til the last possible minute to feed them too, and often run late on our “schedule”.

When does this get easier? Am I doing enough?

Will I ever feel rested? What does life look like after the newborn trenches.

FTM if it wasn’t obvious