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Find memories of Tony, albeit brief.
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Find memories of Tony, albeit brief.

EDIT: FOND MEMORIES*** I HAVE HAD A FEW DRINKS

I can say I shared a "meal"(very flexible usage) with him, and I'll always be proud of that. Honestly just found this sub, but wanted to share a fondness that I should have realized many other people shared for him.

I've also had a few drinks, so bare with me.

Like many here I'm sure, one of the highlights of my week was watching No Reservations, I didn't have cable where I lived at the time, but would go elsewhere so I could watch.

Keeping some details vague: I was working with a venue backstage in trade for a short film location I was directing and acting in. (Weird wardrobe included, but I'm unashamed!) I knew Anthony was going to be in town for a intimate sit-down about travelling, his life, with some Q&A style format.

The SM knew he was someone I genuinely wanted to work with, and unlike a band, he didn't need much- So I was one of his go-tos.

Poor man was bored out of his skull, as there really wasn't much to do in town, and it honestly wasn't very safe to go out and stare at closed businesses.

He saw my PiL shirt and was a bit baffled that I knew them, as I likely wasn't drinking age at the time- we spoke about obscure post-70s punk bands, snacked on not-fully-thawed shrimp cocktail, talked about the wild history of the town itself, as well as it's downfall. (Lots of prohibition history)

We just bounced around topics. I honestly don't remember as much as I feel like I should, I was enamored by him, but of course being young I felt like I couldn't show it.

After his show I wanted to say bye, needed to catch my bus, and didn't want to wait awkwardly to get a word in.. he saw me leaving and made an effort to call me over while he was doing the "VIP book signings." I need to find more photos, as I know my SM had them, but I found one on an old hardrive finally so I can hang it up with an autograph he gave me.

I wish I would have asked him more, but truly I never understood how much he actually shaped my life and career until years later- it would be amazing to tell him that now, but maybe realizing it is enough.

I could speak on him for a long time, but I'll leave it at that.

Cheers to Anthony, and cheers to you all. May your cup runeth over, and more some. 🥂

- ( I did learn his shameless drunk American trash food (and possibly under diress) is KFC Mac N Cheese though, so that is a fun little fact.)

u/h00zbad — 6 days ago
▲ 22 r/stopsmoking

Day 26: Quit after my mother's lung cancer diagnosis UPDATE

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Original post(condensed), UPDATE FOLLOWING BELOW IT:

"My Mother has been diagnosed with stage 1 Lung Cancer.

To note: She has developing pre-dementia.

I say this for a reason.

I smoked for around 18 years- I'm 34, had quit for about 4 months steady- but at some point I bought a pack. I don't even remember why. I have now become a nearly pack a day smoker until yesterday morning. (So I guess not 2 days free yet).

The obvious tipping point was my mothers' diagnosis, however it has been me explaining to her that she has cancer multiple times when we speak on the phone due to her dementia worsening.

Every call I have to tell or remind her, sometimes multiple times.

It feels like a special place in hell, especially now that I have just begun the withdrawal process. I cry everytime I get off the phone, and am beginning to feel an almost resentment. I know it's a byproduct of the situation.."

UPDATE

I am almost a month in as a non-smoker.

My mother has undergone treatment, she has had a 3rd of her lung removed and is now at home.

She is in a lot of pain, but she is pulling through.

She also suffers from GERD, and had a major attack that really hurt her surgery area, so we had to bring her back to the hospital briefly to be checked.

She is okay, and I am still pushing through everything..

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u/h00zbad — 10 days ago
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Day 2 after my My mother was diagnosed with lung cancer.

My Mother has been diagnosed with stage 1(luckily) Lung Cancer. To note: She has developing pre-dementia.

I say this for a reason.

I smoked for around 18 years- I'm 34, had quit for about 4 months steady- but at some point I bought a pack. I don't even remember why. I have now become a nearly pack a day smoker until yesterday morning. (So I guess not 2 days free yet).

The obvious tipping point was my mothers' diagnosis, however it has been me explaining to her that she has cancer multiple times when we speak on the phone due to her dementia worsening.

Every call I have to tell or remind her, sometimes multiple times.

It feels like a special place in hell, especially now that I have just begun the withdrawal process. I cry everytime I get off the phone, and am beginning to feel an almost resentment. I know it's a byproduct of the situation..

Anyway. Day 2, and needed this off my chest.

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u/h00zbad — 1 month ago