u/halfseriousalways

I'm very surprised to see that iPhone 17 has not sold out yet. I wonder why it is so different this time?

I was also eyeing 17 Pro but there are no deals on it. Is it better to buy offline? I have been meaning to explore Croma and Reliance Digital. Are the deals over there worth it?

And this is coming from somebody who has posted excessively on the sub, trying to cope with a heartbreak in the last three months.

Everyone talks about how you must absolutely go no contact... that you must absolutely not break no contact. But there is no single playbook that works for everybody. It's not a one-size-fits-all approach.

I can tell you from my experience that breaking no contact twice has helped me immensely, where I'm now at a stage where I'm okay with not contacting him or being contacted because in my heart I know that I tried, that I did what I could, and that I have done everything possible that was within my control. And knowing that gives me peace.

Yes it hurts that my effort was not reciprocated. That I couldn't even get an explanation to why there was a sudden no contact, that, despite me telling them some very deeply personal details, they gave a very lukewarm reaction to it. But that's on them, not me.

It's an oddly liberating feeling to accept that you can only control what you do and you cannot control how somebody else responds to something. That does not necessarily make them a bad person, but what can you really do?

Am I done grieving? Definitely not. There are still days when I'm sitting with myself and my thoughts and I'm suddenly hit by a wave of grief and I'm crying without explanation. Sometimes I listen to a song and I'm taken back in time and my heart hurts.

I'm taking that as exposure therapy of some kind. I will listen to those songs till the time the grief passes through my body. Till the time I don't associate the song or place with those memories.

Point being- do what you feel like doing. Don't stop yourself from doing anything because you are hurting and you have every right to do what makes you feel good. Even if it means reaching out to them once in a while. Even if it means revisiting certain things that were special to just the two of you. Please define what works for you, and do not follow generic advice because it may not necessarily work for you.

Hope it gets better for all of us.

I ended things with my best friend six months ago and while we stayed friends, we went no contact four months ago and haven't really spoken much after that.

He pretty much completely shut me out without any explanation.. And I've been trying to deal with those emotions. I know it's hard on him and that's why he's doing it. While I have been posting on Instagram excessively and seeing that he is seeing my stories,

I did not see any updates from him at all. I was wondering what is happening in his life, if everything is OK, if he's OK, if his mom is OK.

I just saw a very random, cryptic story of a garden on his Instagram yesterday and a part of me just feels like it can breathe easy knowing that, ok, he is alright. It is such a strange feeling.

I wish I knew how to deal with the anxiety of having something as good as you. I wish I knew how to receive love that does not feel like it's been earned. I wish I hadn't fallen sick in December. I wish I had not gotten so overwhelmed and gone inwards. Because that's the only way I know how to cope.

I wish I told you that I needed help. That I wasn't doing okay. I wish I'd told you that I'm on the brink of infertility. I know you will stay by my side but I was so scared that I might end up taking away your choice of you having your own child. And I always told you that I've pictured you having a little girl of your own. I know none of this was my choice to make but I wish I could bear the weight of the sacrifices that you were making for us.

I wish I hadn't had that depressive episode in February because of the medicine that gave me a side effect.

I never meant to push you away during any of this. I wish my life was more in my control. I wish life wasn't happening to me the way it did. But there are so many things that I feel are completely out of my control.

I wish I had taken your call after my surgery. I really regret not taking it. I wish I'd talk to you for a little longer on your birthday. Told you that I'm so glad that you're born and I'm so fucking grateful that you exist. That I always will be.

I wish I hadn't self-sabotaged so many things. I wish you could just talk to me once. I poured my heart out in a note to you but you gave me such a cold response. I wish you would just communicate what you are feeling. Why you pushed me away? I wish you would have told me that you were hurting. I would have done everything that I could to make it right. I wish you'd tell me why you pushed me away. I hope you know I'm only asking that because I want peace and knowing that you are ok, knowing what hurt you will give me peace because then I'll know what not to do.

Was it really that easy for you to fall out of love with me? In just two months? You know how much I hated getting stonewalled... That is such a terrible trigger for me. Then why are you doing this to me?

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I'm 34F and I've been in the arranged marriage/dating market for close to about six years now. The one conversation that I feel does not let me proceed further with some good prospects is the fact that I'm a little uncertain about having kids.

I don't dislike them, and I'm not entirely on the child-free board but I'm also not sure if I see myself having a family because it's difficult to manage your own life as an adult, all the uncertainties around us, everything. It becomes even more complex and you're bound by a child. I grew up with anxiety issues and have periods of depression in my 20s, and I'm scared I'll spend a lot of my time living in fear again.

This question has become even more pertinent for me because I've been asked to freeze my eggs ASAP as my fertility has been dwindling. No gynecologist is able to figure out what's wrong with me. They say it's something between PCOS and perimenopause because my reports men here are widely different from each other. I'm pretty sure that with my body it might be increasingly difficult for me to have a biological child growing forward. I don't really come across a lot of men who have this conundrum whether they wanna have kids or not, so approaching this convo is tricky always.

I would like to hear the experiences of people who've been in the same position as me, and how did you navigate this decision and what kind of impact it had on your dating/married life?

Question for the men here: How have you navigated being on the fence, if at all you were? Is this something you actively think about at any point during dating? how important is this factor for your decision whether or not this person is a suitable long term partner for you?

And have you ever changed your mind after making a decision? What changed your mind?

I'm 34F and I've been in the arranged marriage/dating market for close to about six years now. The one conversation that I feel does not let me proceed further with some good prospects is the fact that I'm a little uncertain about having kids.

I don't dislike them, and I'm not entirely on the child-free board but I'm also not sure if I see myself having a family because it's difficult to manage your own life as an adult, all the uncertainties around us, everything. It becomes even more complex and you're bound by a child. I grew up with anxiety issues and have periods of depression in my 20s, and I'm scared I'll spend a lot of my time living in fear again.

This question has become even more pertinent for me because I've been asked to freeze my eggs ASAP as my fertility has been dwindling. No gynecologist is able to figure out what's wrong with me. They say it's something between PCOS and perimenopause because my reports men here are widely different from each other. I'm pretty sure that with my body it might be increasingly difficult for me to have a biological child growing forward. I don't really come across a lot of men who have this conundrum whether they wanna have kids or not, so approaching this convo is tricky always.

I would like to hear the experiences of people who've been in the same position as me, and how did you navigate this decision and what kind of impact it had on your dating/married life?

Hi,

I'm currently going through a rough patch where my ex has gone no contact and distanced randomly. We were friends for some time after breaking up but then this happened. He hasnt been picking my calls and it's pretty evident that he's avoiding me and idk why.

It's been very unsettling for me. I've been trying to get by my day normally but it doesn't happen. Today I saw 4:44 twice. Once on someone's phone screen, then 444 on my mom's socks. This has been very random but idk if it's actually random? Can it mean anything?

Hi,

I'm currently going through a rough patch where my ex has gone no contact and distanced randomly. We were friends for some time after breaking up but then this happened. He hasnt been picking my calls and it's pretty evident that he's avoiding me and idk why.

It's been very unsettling for me. I've been trying to get by my day normally but it doesn't happen. Today I saw 4:44 twice. Once on someone's phone screen, then 444 on my mom's socks. This has been very random but idk if it's actually random? Can it mean anything?

TL;DR Context: Best friends for a year, I secretly loved him always, he fell for me too, but age gap (me 34F he 29M) and his bicuriosity made me doubt his readiness as I was looking to get married and was dating to marry before him. We tried exploring things a bit, were in a grey area for some time but very much in love. I had some health issues which I wasnt able to deal well with and went inwards (and didnt share it with him on time) because overwhelmed. He thought I was falling out of love and shut down. Had a big fight because the stonewalling triggered me and I had to beg him to talk despite being in a fragile state. Broke up. All this happened over a period of 6-7 months. We stayed friends for 2 months post that...and then some other health stuff going on that took over me during that time and unknowingly I reduced contact. He disappeared for some time..stopped responding and shut down. When I asked him if he's okay and why hasnt he been responding, he just said that he needs space. I was hurt but waited for him to reach out again but it had been 3 months.

Wrote him a long ass note talking about everything that I couldn't tell him, that I wanted to tell him. That I wish he would have done everything that I could have told him.

Below is the convo (not able to attach screenshots)-

\\\*\\\*Me\\\*\\\*\\\\- Hi.. I’ve been meaning to send (the note) for some time.. but it was more difficult than I anticipated. It’s a very long read, and there’s some deeply personal stuff in there which I hope gets treated with the sensitivity that it needs.

If you choose to not read it, It’s perfectly fine.. there’s absolutely no pressure to.

\\\*\\\*Him\\\*\\\*\\\\- Hi, thanks for sharing this with me.

Hope you’re well now?

I honestly don’t wanna get into the whole thing. But thanks for letting me know your side.

\\\*\\\*Me\\\*\\\*\\\\- Thanks for reading it. It was ridiculously long…but I’m really glad you read it. But I guess it all just came out in one go. And I was feeling very nervous while sending it. If anything comes off as offensive or anything, pls ignore. I haven’t focused on tone etc.

I’m…better than before, in a lot of ways thankfully. Some parts (esp Feb) feel like a blip

Have you been okay? I still want to know your side of things.

I wanna know what happened. I really do. It’ll help me be at peace…if nothing else. I hope you can give me that

And I’m okay if you call me a stone cold selfish bitch who doesn’t deserve that peace, or anything really. I’d rather know that than not know anything at all

\\\*\\\*Him\\\*\\\*\\\\- I never thought all this for you, you’re a good person.

But I just don’t wanna get into all this. And this is not how you find peace. Nothing I say will help, it will only lead to more and more unnecessary thoughts / discussions.

\\\*\\\*Me\\\*\\\*\\\\- I’m relieved to hear that you don’t hate me. I’m not trying to initiate a discussion by asking you any of this… you’ve made it very clear and I respect that. I won’t go into that zone where I fight with you to bring you back to another side. You wanted space, I respected that too…as I should be doing.

But my way of finding peace is different from yours…I hope you understand that

This conversation was about a week ago and he hasn't responded since. I find myself going back to this and staring at the blue ticks multiple times in a day and I don't know what to do. Am I asking for too much? If we had decided to be friends and if he went no contact, do I not even deserve to know the reason why? I have been thinking about all the possible things that he could have thought, assumed, or whatever and I cannot think of anything that I haven't already explained in the note or otherwise. I really don't know what to do.

EDIT- dunno if it helps the context but we're both only children. His parents separated when he was a child and he's had a difficult childhood growing up.

So for the last couple of years I have been consistently seeing 11:11, 2:22, and sometimes 4:44. I knew these are angel numbers and they all signify something and I couldn't really correlate it too much, other than the fact that I am protected divinely and I'm moving on the right path.

I have been making vision boards, manifesting, praying, doing a lot of different things...Especially for my love life.

Last year my best friend and I fell in love with each other out of nowhere and it almost felt like he was my 11-11 wish come true because out of the blue he would text me to make a wish any time he saw the number (he had no idea about my beliefs and manifestations). There were a lot of other things also from my previous vision boards that came true with him when I look in retrospect- like I had two hands with glue bands on it in my vision board three years ago and I attended the Coldplay concert with him, then there was a picture of a hyper-independent woman saying that "I can do it" but the guy says, "Let me do it for you."... Something that he told me once very casually over lunch when we were friends and not even dating.

We did not end up together because there were communication issues. We both had our childhood traumas that were working against each other and I believe in over-communicating and he does not communicate enough.

I still wonder if I should really fight for it because I've done it in the past once and it just felt like a lot of effort to go through with this, even though I was very happy. I really don't know what to do, what science to believe in. I honestly feel like I don't believe in 11:11 or manifestations anymore. What was the point of my vision board coming to when it had to hurt so much?

I even got the bouquet at my friend's wedding two years ago this relationship had happened but I did not expect it to take this kind of a turn. Everybody says that what's meant for you will not miss you. but I really don't know what to do. Me and my ex had decided to stay friends and managed to do it for 2 months but in the third month he just disappeared and has suddenly got no contact. It's been 3 to 4 months now and I don't know what to do.

I wrote him a note bearing my soul, telling him everything that I couldn't, everything that I went through, everything that I was feeling. But his reply to that was very curt and to the point, where he said that he does not want to start anything again. Is he really the one then? Did I actually manifest him? I don't think I know how this works anymore.

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So for the last couple of years I have been consistently seeing 11:11, 2:22, and sometimes 4:44. I knew these are angel numbers and they all signify something and I couldn't really correlate it too much, other than the fact that I am protected divinely and I'm moving on the right path.

I have been making vision boards, manifesting, praying, doing a lot of different things...Especially for my love life.

Last year my best friend and I fell in love with each other out of nowhere and it almost felt like he was my 11-11 wish come true because out of the blue he would text me to make a wish any time he saw the number (he had no idea about my beliefs and manifestations). There were a lot of other things also from my previous vision boards that came true with him when I look in retrospect- like I had two hands with glue bands on it in my vision board three years ago and I attended the Coldplay concert with him, then there was a picture of a hyper-independent woman saying that "I can do it" but the guy says, "Let me do it for you."... Something that he told me once very casually over lunch when we were friends and not even dating.

We did not end up together because there were communication issues. We both had our childhood traumas that were working against each other and I believe in over-communicating and he does not communicate enough.

I still wonder if I should really fight for it because I've done it in the past once and it just felt like a lot of effort to go through with this, even though I was very happy. I really don't know what to do, what science to believe in. I honestly feel like I don't believe in 11:11 or manifestations anymore. What was the point of my vision board coming to when it had to hurt so much?

I even got the bouquet at my friend's wedding two years ago this relationship had happened but I did not expect it to take this kind of a turn. Everybody says that what's meant for you will not miss you. but I really don't know what to do. Me and my ex had decided to stay friends and managed to do it for 2 months but in the third month he just disappeared and has suddenly got no contact. It's been 3 to 4 months now and I don't know what to do.

I wrote him a note bearing my soul, telling him everything that I couldn't, everything that I went through, everything that I was feeling. But his reply to that was very curt and to the point, where he said that he does not want to start anything again. Is he really the one then? Did I actually manifest him? I don't think I know how this works anymore.

So for the last couple of years I have been consistently seeing 11:11, 2:22, and sometimes 4:44. I knew these are angel numbers and they all signify something and I couldn't really correlate it too much, other than the fact that I am protected divinely and I'm moving on the right path.

I have been making vision boards, manifesting, praying, doing a lot of different things...Especially for my love life.

Last year my best friend and I fell in love with each other out of nowhere and it almost felt like he was my 11-11 wish come true because out of the blue he would text me to make a wish any time he saw the number (he had no idea about my beliefs and manifestations). There were a lot of other things also from my previous vision boards that came true with him when I look in retrospect- like I had two hands with glue bands on it in my vision board three years ago and I attended the Coldplay concert with him, then there was a picture of a hyper-independent woman saying that "I can do it" but the guy says, "Let me do it for you."... Something that he told me once very casually over lunch when we were friends and not even dating.

We did not end up together because there were communication issues. We both had our childhood traumas that were working against each other and I believe in over-communicating and he does not communicate enough.

I still wonder if I should really fight for it because I've done it in the past once and it just felt like a lot of effort to go through with this, even though I was very happy. I really don't know what to do, what science to believe in. I honestly feel like I don't believe in 11:11 or manifestations anymore. What was the point of my vision board coming to when it had to hurt so much?

I even got the bouquet at my friend's wedding two years ago this relationship had happened but I did not expect it to take this kind of a turn. Everybody says that what's meant for you will not miss you. but I really don't know what to do. Me and my ex had decided to stay friends and managed to do it for 2 months but in the third month he just disappeared and has suddenly got no contact. It's been 3 to 4 months now and I don't know what to do.

I wrote him a note bearing my soul, telling him everything that I couldn't, everything that I went through, everything that I was feeling. But his reply to that was very curt and to the point, where he said that he does not want to start anything again. Is he really the one then? Did I actually manifest him? I don't think I know how this works anymore.

Everyone talks about how shitty the dating scene is, how men are emotionally unavailable, but I wish people talked about another scenario more: about how to move on from something that was really amazing but did not work out because your emotional regulion capabilities were very different. Because your childhood traumas are coming in the way of you guys being together. Because you are at different life stages. Because you can't shake off that gut feeling/anxiety that they dont know what they're signing up for.

I'm currently trying to process the grief of one such relationship. He was my best friend, someone who made me feel seen, heard, understood for the first time in my life. I feel like I'm imploding right now, and I don't know how I'll ever recover from this.

I keep oscillating between "we weren't right for each other" and "maybe, I should try and work this out with him".

Somewhere I also have the fear that I will never find someone like you and that eats me up inside. I just don't know how to deal with it. There is just so much heaviness inside of me right now.

Everyone talks about how shitty the dating scene is, how men are emotionally unavailable, but I wish people talked about another scenario more: about how to move on from something that was really amazing but did not work out because your emotional regulion capabilities were very different. Because your childhood traumas are coming in the way of you guys being together. Because you are at different life stages. Because you can't shake off that gut feeling/anxiety that they dont know what they're signing up for.

I'm currently trying to process the grief of one such relationship. He was my best friend, someone who made me feel seen, heard, understood for the first time in my life. I feel like I'm imploding right now, and I don't know how I'll ever recover from this.

I keep oscillating between "we weren't right for each other" and "maybe, I should try and work this out with him".

Somewhere I also have the fear that I will never find someone like you and that eats me up inside. I just don't know how to deal with it. There is just so much heaviness inside of me right now.

I was renewing my annual Prime membership. In order to get a better deal, I bought a discounted gift card and added it to my Prime balance. When I went for renewal, I saw that Amazon was offering me an upfront discount that was a lot lower than the actual voucher amount.

As a result of this I have an excess balance in my Prime voucher section.

I want to understand if there is any way I can get a refund of the remaining or utilize it somewhere else. What is the expiry date for this kind of balance?

My account is based out of India.

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Hi! I am planning to write a longish note to my ex partner and and while I trust him, I do not want to leave a digital trail of any kind. The note is going to contain some personal details, which I would want him to be able to read or re-read whenever he wants for a limited period of tim, but not store with him forever. Ideally he should not be able to take screenshots as well, but I understand that's going to be a difficult thing to find in a tool.

Please suggest any good websites, apps, or hacks that could help me do this.

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Hi! I am planning to write a longish note to my ex partner and and while I trust him, I do not want to leave a digital trail of any kind. The note is going to contain some personal details, which I would want him to be able to read or re-read whenever he wants to but not store with him forever. Ideally he should not be able to take screenshots as well, but I understand that's going to be a difficult thing to find in a tool.

Please suggest if there's any particular setting in Apple Notes that I can use for this, if not Apple Notes then would you know of any other alternatives for this?

I've trained my Instagram so well that it has now started showing me episodes in Japanese with English subtitles. Free from Indian censorship.

I came across this episode where Mitsy falls in love with a vegetable seller and is fantasizing about leaving Harry... thinking about alimony and what not😂

I don't know if we will ever get to see this in India... And the number of such episodes that we might be missing out on😐

Either way I just love, love, love how unhinged this show is!

34F here. I have been having irregular periods for the last 8 years now. It was probably triggered by a very stressful period in my life where I rapidly gained 10 kgs and subsequently lost it as well but my periods have never been the same. I underwent multiple treatments for it homeopathic, ayurvedic, which did help in making them regular. I have also been having one simple recurring cyst which comes and goes on each ovary occasionally. Somewhere around 2022, I was having very heavy bleeding that would last a month, and there was no clear cycle. I underwent an Ayurvedic treatment focused at my gut issues and it did get quite regular because of it. I am no longer on that treatment since June 2025, because I got really tired of constantly being on some or the other pills. I've only had three periods ever since. One in July, one in December, one in June this year.
I've gotten my blood test done and my biomarkers are all within range except my AMH which is quite low. So PMOS is ruled out. I have reached a point of desperation where I've even used AI to figure out what is wrong with me. It suggested I get autoimmune screenings done, which I did, and those were normal as well. I've been to multiple gynaecologists who have not been able to understand or diagnose what exactly is causing the amenorrhea or the lack of ovulation. I am also single and on the fence about having kids, so I haven't acted on the advice of freezing my eggs as it is a very tedious procedure, and I don't think I can handle the emotional roller coaster that it will be. I just want to fix my body once and for all and start getting normal periods because I am doing everything possible for it.

I want to understand if there is anybody here who has gone through something similar. Were you able to find a permanent fix for it?