mutually deep connection now gone-
i’m 22 and had one of those weird wlw situations that felt really real and then just… dissolved in the most confusing way possible.
we met naturally while we were at a restaurant and there was immediate chemistry. we ended up going on a handful of dates and it honestly felt very emotionally raw/tender compared to a lot of dating i’ve experienced. she was really affectionate, vulnerable with me, we bonded a lot over music, and there were moments where it genuinely felt like she was letting me see parts of herself she normally keeps hidden.
the weirdest part is the ending never felt “bad.” there was no fight or betrayal or anything dramatic. our last date just had this strange emotional undertone where it almost felt like we both realized things had gotten more real than expected. saying goodbye that night felt weirdly painful and vulnerable and i still can’t fully explain why.
afterward we still texted a bit, joked around, referenced things between us, etc. then one day she just kind of… stopped replying. not a dramatic block/unfollow situation, just a fade/ghost.
what confuses me is she’s never been petty toward me at all. she still follows me, watches things sometimes, never removed me from her life in an obvious way. it almost makes it harder because it doesn’t feel like she hated me or regretted me. it just feels like she emotionally disappeared.
i think part of me keeps trying to understand whether she got scared, overwhelmed, avoidant, emotionally unavailable, etc. because what we had genuinely felt mutual and real to me.
i know i need to move on and i’m trying to, but i still care about her a lot even if we never become anything again. i guess i’m just struggling with how someone can be so emotionally open and close with you and then quietly vanish without a real ending.