hi!! i am in barbados for the week with my best friend and we are wondering where to go and when for the best experience. we are planning to go to oistin’s on friday night but would love any other recommendations for wednesday and thursday, or even tuesday if yall go out then! any recommendations very appreciated
I (21F) went on an impromptu overnight beach trip with two friends, who I will name Josie (21F)) and Cory (21M)). I’m very anxious and not impulsive, but I agreed because I love the beach, Josie is one of my best friends, and I had (emphasis on had) a slight crush on Cory. I originally thought it was a day trip, but only later learned it was 3–4 hours away, and overnight.
Since my friends are “figure it out when we get there” people and I’m not, I booked the hotel myself. Cory reimbursed me, but deducted about $40 for gas (basically a full tank), after I said I'd pay for only half.
The drive there was stressful: Cory blasted music at max volume, drove ≈ 90 mph in an old car with a duct-taped headlight, and was smoking weed at the gas stop, or driving slower in a residential area to smoke out of his bong while driving. I asked him to slow down/turn the music down, but nothing changed. We got pulled over for speeding in a residential area while they were hiding a bong from the police. I was terrified; luckily he only got a ticket.
At the hotel, they went to the beach to smoke. I stayed behind setting up the room and trying to sleep because I had a final exam in two days. Around 2 a.m., they came back and announced they were pulling an all-nighter on the beach and wouldn’t return until morning. I felt abandoned and basically cried myself to sleep.
At 4 a.m., I woke up to someone trying to break in, it was them trying to bypass the deadbolt with a broken hanger, because I’d locked the door for safety. They came in without saying anything and passed out. I barely slept.
The next day at the beach was better, but they repeatedly left me alone to go smoke in the car. I don’t smoke, and they knew that before inviting me. I spent large chunks of the trip by myself while they did their own thing. By the drive home, I was sunburnt and exhausted, though I still managed a 98/100 on my final the next day.
A few days later, before I could even bring up how hurt and excluded I felt, Josie called me “selfish” and said I always make things about myself. She also said Cory was mad at me too. This blindsided me.
For context: Josie recently went through a devastating breakup and some major life changes, so I’ve tried to be understanding. I’ve also gone out of my way to support her before—even once driving 2 hours to see her, only for her to leave me and another friend stranded after her own emotional breakdown (which she previously apologized for).
I understand I could’ve communicated my feelings better, but before the trip Josie explicitly warned me that she and Cory “don’t accommodate” and would do what they wanted. That made me feel like speaking up would be pointless.
I genuinely thought I was letting them have fun while I quietly handled my own discomfort, not making things about me. AITA?