u/heartshapedbin

Its just baffling to me the concept of cheating nai?? Mero gym ko dai has a gf ani he keeps asking me timro sathi single ho ? Or milaideuna timro sathi sanga??? Like he does not have a whole ass gf ani another example college ko classmate also had a gf but i saw him flirting with my friend??? And then a few weeks later he met another one of my friend and flirted with her too. Said he was hurt and disappointed when she wouldn’t go back to his apartment. The next day he posts his girlfriend on his story.

These kinds of people scare the shit out of me. Psycho vibes.

Do you have any stories like these? And if you are the cheater then why do you do it? Whats the thought process?

I recently saw this on pinterest “feel but dont dwell”I am a huge dweller and I constantly keep overthinking about the situations and how I should’ve handled it or i just try to overall suppress my emotions. I know growth is not linear and we have to be patient with ourselves but at the same time i feel Im letting it consume me. Pls give me guidance on how i should approach myself when feeling like this.

Im 24 and have never been in a relationship because of my avoidant personality. Recently i met someone who’s kinda my type ani for once in my life im actually trying to be open. Ive been flirting, engaging, and letting myself explore instead of immediately shutting things down.
Tara im a bit confused. When i talk to him i dont feel mentally stimulated our conversations are very surface level. Im not sure if this is because Im used to avoiding intimacy and creating reasons to reject people or we are just not compatible. I am trying to approach dating differently this time and dont want to repeat my old pattern. Im also known as like a “bad texter” but w him im really trying guys😭 he also has not asked to meet up so maybe he’s the problem???
Idk what do u guys think of this situation?