I have a requirement that my partners shave their bikini region before oral sex.
I don't really know how to bring this up with a new partner. It's already affected our sex life that I haven't said anything since I'm used to a lot of oral sex but I have this requirement attached. I feel ashamed like a misogynist man for having this requirement. Is this an appropriate thing to bring up with a partner?
hey everyone! I’m moving in with a friend who’s monogamous. I’m polyamorous but I’ve realised that we have feelings for each other. We are incompatible lovers who want to be friends. I never mentioned I’m attracted to them. I’m scared that this attraction is growing. I’ve never been good with platonic boundaries in relationships. am I being dishonest with them?
TLDR: I feel ashamed of this attraction and how it would look to outsiders. How can I navigate this so that my polyamorous girlfriend is fully aware of my potential attraction to him?
I was wondering how it would look to potential partners and obviously feel ashamed of this attraction because I refused some of his advances. I really like him and he’s quickly become my FP that gives me butterflies. We are both super excited to live together and I also have another FP (my girlfriend). My girlfriend might be the most important person to consult here. I’m so scared of crushing on my roommate.
he says he loves me as a friend. he’s taken me out to nude beaches and spas. he said he does it because he loves me and just wants me to be happy but I was suspicious he wanted to sleep with me and we both decided not to. Obviously I love the attention because I also care about and love him. Feeling this crush gives me a burning shame. I’m not even sure how he handles jealousy yet if he likes me back.
I’m scared of planning too much of my life with him- beach trips, camping trips, living together, while I have a gf who I love and other females that I date casually.
he’s also a bit avoidable if I need space- he works 12 hours a day and is constantly on business trips. this is the main reason I’m choosing to live with him and have imagined that we’ll cuddle and watch movies and read books and go to the beach in our down time.
here’s the question: how can I ask my gf for her advice? it’s a young relationship and I really don’t want to lose her even if I lose him as a friend.
she told me not to sleep with him but then said- she wouldn’t really care if I sleep with him. she’s a sex worker and doesn’t get so jealous of anyone I connect with. still, I sensed a bit of jealousy when I first brought him up. I need to really put her first. I told my girlfriend that he and I are friends but she’s yet to meet him. she thinks it’s a good idea for us to live together but I wonder if she would change her stance with more information. If I’m not doing anything wrong, why do I feel ashamed, hypersexual, and dishonest?