Need advice about parents and boundaries
Hi people, 30f here having trouble setting boundaries with my parents.
I am usually open about things with my family, especially consult my dad time to time about financial, career or general advice.
I have recently got a job offer and I had to quit before signing the new contract, as otherwise my leave would be extended and my entry to the new job would be delayed.
I asked my parents specifically not to share this news with others as there is nothing signed yet. I already heard from 2 distant family members knowing this news. On top of that my dad keeps asking for an update, even though i clearly told him i would let him know if anything new happened.
So now the issue is, both of them are not going to be rational if i told them i didn‘t want them to share, nor i want to be asked everyday about updates. They will definitelly blame me for being selfish, why would i hide from family, they are just thinking about me etc etc. They ll get hostile, yell at me and definitely put the blame on me then probably give me silent treatment as well. Making me feel crap.
I really don‘t know what to do. I am already stressed waiting for the new contract, this is stressing me more. Also not respecting my privacy and request is boiling my blood. I am also scared i would sound mean if i was to express myself.
This is just one recent example of course, happens all the time about various stuff. I wonder if me being single makes them mingle more into my life, or if they would be same.
Also definitely see my mistake as sharing my good news with them, i should have think more and only share when everything was done, i will be only „letting them know“ in the future.