Has anyone else struggled with their autistic child(ren) in keeping them entertained or helping them understand their poor behaviors aren’t okay? Has anyone been able to find a way for them to enjoy the beach for more than an hour or even the pool, with so many other people around? If anyone has stayed bayside, does it seem easier than Oceanside? Just trying to enjoy the rest of our vacation as much as possible.
I recently went no contact with my mom, her not knowing it, but so far it’s been very confusing for me. I feel a greater sense of peace, but also exhaustion. I haven’t had my survival mode switched on for a few weeks now. The last I heard from her, she asked me if she could see my kids, but had no words for me. Before that, she came to my house after staying with us for 4 months to pick up some leftover items. She used that opportunity to scream at me in my driveway about how she never needed me after her back surgery. She screamed at me because we told her we didn’t want her staying with us anymore (she had healed by this point). What’s the issue with wanting to no longer be robbed of our family memories? While she was here, she was constantly in my face or looking for me or in my places of solitude. If I left the house, she’d be clamoring to know where I was…..I had no space to breathe. She even asked me if she was in the way… UMM YES! She also asked if it’s hard to talk to her… UMMM YES! Whenever we tried (my husband and I), she would literally flip her lid. So wtf? So again, after all that, she says she wants to see the kids. Just totally skipping over me and what I’m feeling, so now I’m in a place where I can enforce my boundaries and not give two sh*ts about how it makes her feel. I still care about her welfare, but apart from that, I’ve reached a place where I’m better off without her in my life. I’ve had her blocked for over a week, haven’t checked for any responses, also whenever her so-called friends reach out for anything, I’m immediately guarded and take no part in their games. It’s confusing to stand on the boundaries I’ve made because for the first time in my life, she’s not controlling me. 😮💨😴