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I (33M) have been living outside India (5 in US, 6 in EU) for 11 years - 2 as a student and 9 as a working professional. I have worked in mechanical engineering (R&D Testing in automotive field) for all of those working years. Recently, my mother started demanding that I return to India to be near my parents, who live in Pune.

I am a naturalised citizen in an EU country because I thought I will be spending at least 15-20 years there. I bought a home there as well. But life gives you surprises and my mother wants me to sell the home, rehome my pet, and come back to stay with her.

I am looking for experiences of other mechanical engineers who returned back to India after significant time outside. How did you find the job? Do you like the job? Is the job doing justice to your educational qualifications? Was the pay good? Did you find something in the city where you wanted to live?

Also, is it worth leaving everything and just showing up in India and starting a job search from scratch? How do employers look at US + EU work experience? Is a US Masters degree worth anything?

At the moment I am a bit lost on how to even commence this job hunt. All advice and suggestions are appreciated.

I (32M) got engaged recently. My fiancée (31F) lives in India and I live abroad. After engagement my fiancée complained that I am very emotionally distant and I don't engage in romantic talk or texting. This is true and completely valid.

Something about myself: I never had a relationship till now. I grew up very sheltered in an upper middle class family where academics was the main focus. Left India 11 years ago for higher studies, then got a job, and life continued. A few years ago, I decided to practice stoicism as a cure for the rejection that I was getting on AM apps. That included self love - loading up my agenda with activities including work, gym, books, cooking. Everything ran according to a time-table. I learned to become emotionally inert, to bury emotions deep inside by doing stuff and not taking a pause. It worked WONDERFULLY. Last two years were the best years of my life.

Then I got engaged through AM and I am finding it hard to bring those emotions back from the depths. For example, I don't feel anything when I watch a romantic or horror or thrilling movie. I don't get disappointed or excited that quickly. It is as if some later of tissue in my brain got deactivated and the signals are not flowing anymore. Everything in life feels like an action item to be completed, box to be ticked, and not a moment to be savoured.

I can understand how my fiancee feels. If I cannot provide her with the emotional support, it will break our engagement. The worst part is, I will not feel bad about it, because I feel dead inside.

Help me.

Hoi,

Ik ben onlangs genaturaliseerd tot Nederlander. Over zes maanden ga ik trouwen met iemand die geen Nederlands paspoort heeft. Ik heb vragen over hoe ik mijn geld kan beschermen als het huwelijk niet lukt.

Ik bezit een huis met een hypotheek van €280.000 (van de oorspronkelijke €334.000). De waarde van het huis is ongeveer €400.000.

Naast het huis heb ik nog €200.000 aan vermogen en €25.000 aan spaargeld.

Ik ben 33 jaar. Wat denken andere Redditors dat de beste manier is om mijn vermogen te behouden?