Acting more Feminine since dating my gf, is this normal?
Hi, I've been dating my girlfriend for about a year and a half now, and I've been very specific about my labels, i.e. I like being a girlfriend, and I am a lesbian, but I'm not a woman or a man, and one day I will be a dad to my kids. This has all remained the same, but recently she mentioned I've referred to myself as a women more than when we first started dating and asked if my feelings about my gender are the same. I told her the truth, that I feel the same as I always have, and that I appreciate her checking in. (To be clear, in reference to myself I choose to switch around with gendered terms a lot instead of sticking to one set. Especially given they/them and non-binary labels have sort of become a third gender sort of thing among cis people, but I don't feel like any gender at all and feel that using all pronouns and a mixture of labels has made me feel most myself.)
I've noticed before that I have been acting more feminine recently, and I don't know if it has anything to do with my girlfriend or our relationship. I'm definitely kind of a twink, even as a masc lesbian, and my girlfriend is stronger and tends to take on a more stereotypical role that people may assume I would. I've found myself definitely being more feminine in the way we interact and I don't mind it, or think it makes me less non-binary, but it is something that makes me worry others might use that as a way to invalidate my gender. I have felt a lot of people seem to feel I'm sort of going to "figure out" my gender eventually, but it feels definitely already figured out to me. My girlfriend has never made me feel that way and has been nothing but perfect about my gender and how I choose to express it.
I guess what I'm trying to work out is if this is something other people can relate to? Having to combat with people's very binary way of looking at expressions of gender and feeling like you can't just be yourself outside of that without it somehow effecting your gender?
And if anyone else has acted more feminine or masculine in a relationship, how has that effected your feelings about expressions of gender with your partner and outside of them?