That's the post. I went this summer. I want to return this winter. Children want to plan vacations elsewhere (Alhumdulillah for the ability to), but I just want to go to Makkah again. No where else will I feel whole again. Heart keeps asking Allah for one more time.
My husband (44 M) and I(40 F) have been married for 17 years. We have a decently strong relationship which has resulted in 3 kids (15 M, 11 F, and 7month old M). He's a good provider and does love me to the extent he can. For the past few years though, his style for dealing with confrontation has changed from simply leaving the room and not engaging with the content of the disagreement at all, to simply telling me to shut up. He says, "Just shut up." and that's it. Won't discuss why I might have issues, won't explain why I might be wrong. Just "Shut up."
Recent argument was about going for Umrah which is a Muslim religious pilgrimage. I wanted us to stay walking distance from the Kaaba because I have a 7 month old who might suddenly poop, or cry, or get tired and it would be easier to take him back. He spoke to the travel agent who suggested a hotel further away to save money. When I disagreed and said I'd pay the extra, he said "Don't take that attitude with me. Just shut up. I don't even know why I asked you." In front of our daughter.
The next night, our baby was cranky and I was trying to burp him. He almost scolded me and said "Give him here."
I said, "you need to stop taking that tone with me."
Once again, "just shut up."
I hate being dismissed like this. This feels disrespectful. What do I do? How do I tell him how rude he is being considering he refuses to listen to any of my concerns?
My husband (44 M) and I(40 F) have been married 17 years . We have a decently strong relationship which has resulted in 3 kids (15 M, 11 F, and 7month old M). He's a good provider and does love me to the extent he can.
For the past few years though, his style for dealing with confrontation has changed from simply leaving the room and not engaging with the content of the disagreement at all, to simply telling me to shut up. He says, "Just shut up." and that's it. Won't discuss why I might have issues, won't explain why I might be wrong. Just "Shut up."
Recent argument was about going for Umrah which is a Muslim religious pilgrimage. I wanted us to stay walking distance from the Kaaba because I have a 7 month old who might suddenly dirty a diaper, or cry, or get tired and it would be easier to take him back.
He spoke to the travel agent who suggested a hotel further away to save money. When I disagreed and said I'd pay the extra, he said "Don't take that attitude with me. Just shut up. I don't even know why I asked you." In front of our daughter.
The next night, our baby was cranky and I was trying to burp him. He almost scolded me and said "Give him here."
I said, "you need to stop taking that tone with me."
Once again, his only response was "just shut up."
What do I do? How do I tell him how rude he is being considering he refuses to listen to any of my concerns?
Tl;Dr
Edit: removed all mentions of my religion because it is irrelevant.