u/hollander_rozanov

Não leia esse texto se você não for ”woke” o suficiente para lidar com ele.

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Há cerca de um ano, meu irmão (21 anos) parou de falar comigo. A história é longa, mas basicamente ele acha que eu abandonei ele para lidar com o controle excessivo e narcisista dos meus pais. Eu respeito o lado dele, mesmo doendo. Eu só não tinha mais condições de continuar convivendo com meus pais.

Enfim, o post não é sobre isso. Toda a família compartilha an Amazon Prime, então eu tenho acesso aos livros que ele adicionou na wishlist dele. São livros muito interessantes, como Veias Abertas da América Latina e Comunidades Imaginadas.

Eu queria mais dicas de livros sobre racismo e machismo para tentar fazer ele abrir os olhos para tudo que vivemos. Ele não é o tipo de pessoa racista e machista, muito pelo contrário, mas às vezes reproduz pensamentos errados devido à forma como nós fomos criados e ao que meus pais falam constantemente (eu só melhorei quando alguém pegou na minha mão e falou ”eu também fui criada em uma realidade muito conservadora e você pode melhorar” e me ajudou com isso. Quero também ajudá-lo). Infelizmente nada que cubra a comunidade LGBT, porque meus pais são muito conversadores e existe o perigo deles descobrirem e surtarem (os surtos deles são assustadores e criminosos, mas ninguém faz nada. Eu mesmo já procurei a delegacia para denunciá-los, mas o delegado disse que queria chamar meus pais para lá para “resolvermos esse problema entre os três”. Eu era maior de idade.)

Enfim.

Também busco uma recomendação de livro que não seja ”Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents”, mas que seja numa vibe parecida, porque ultimamente ele está defendendo meus pais sem perceber o quão nocivos eles são e o quanto eles destruíram tanto a minha vida quanto a dele.

Agradeço a ajuda!

Hello, everyone! Tonight my friends and I are going to a Severance Trivia themed and I’d like to ask for your help

What are details about Severance that we should never forget? Like Woe, Frolic, etc; the questions Mark S. asks Helly in episode 1; the names of the different ”tasks” the inners have to complete, such as Cold Harbor etc

Thank y’all!

Olá, gente! Boa noite!

Eu tenho um problema muito sério com delineador: se eu coço o olho sem querer, ele borra; meus olhos lacrimejam muito fácil, especialmente em ambientes com ar condicionado.

Alguém tem alguma recomendação de delineador caneta que não mancha com chuva nem com suor? Não aguento mais tentar um monte diferente e todos eles não funcionarem :(

Olá!

Queria tirar uma dúvida: qual é a areia favorita de vocês que não é realmente areia? Tipo sílica, ou aquelas de mandioca ou tofu, etc?

Eu troquei daquelas areias normais tipo Viva Verde para areia de sílica faz uns meses porque minha gata espalhava MUITA areia pela casa e isso diminuiu bastante. Mas a marca que eu estou usando agora (Great Pets) sobe muita poeira e eu fico preocupada com o sistema respiratório dela

Valeu :)

So I just rewatched Arrival (2026), and by now I have pretty much everything about the plot figured out. How Louise’s mind started working after communicating with the heptapods, why Renner’s character left her years later, why the heptapods contacted Louise specifically (they knew she was gonna lose her daughter to an unknown disease that was probably gonna hit the heptapods three thousand years later – and they knew that, by then, the humans would have enough technology and would have enough knowledge of the heptapods‘ language to help them understand the cure), etc etc

But one thing I cannot figure out why in the scene in the “future” with the general – 18 months after the arrival of the aliens on Earth –, Amy Adam’s character didn’t remember what she said to the general to stop the war

The movie clearly points to the general’s wife dying before the heptapods’ arrival, and said general also knew there was no way Louise could know about his wife’s last words – so that’s when he understood her mind worked differently and he needed to trust her. Louise spoke those words to him because she figured out that, in the future, her character would hear those words

So why didn’t she, in the future, remember the words that she spoke 18 months earlier? The general knew he needed to give her his personal number and his wife’s words. But why didn’t she remember what she said?

The movie proves that Louise starts understanding time differently than others, but her memory of her past couldn’t change – she tells the heptapods ”who is this girl?” because she hadn’t had Hannah yet. But her position in the research and contact with the heptapods was due to her previous paper and knowledge of languages, so she knew her past. And her mind only changed after meeting the heptapods

So why did future her looked so confused when talking to the general when she had already called him on his personal number and spoken those words? Why didn’t she remember what she said?

We knew ”present“ her got the vision of the future and that’s why she got to know the number and the words, but ”future” her would already know then because the call had already happened

So why did she look so confused when talking to the general? Why didn’t she remember what she had said herself to stop a war? It‘s an information too important to forget only 18 months later – and she didn’t even remember she had already made the call. She didn’t know any of that had happened

Why? How?

I posted this in another sub because I didn't know about the existence of this one. So yeah, if you've seen this post before, that's why :))

I’m 23. I had a burnout due to studying too much when I was 14.

Yes, I know you’ll doubt it. Everyone does. But studying became my entire life when I was 14 to 15. I used to study from 7AM ‘til 10PM to pass an exam to go to a specific prestige high school I wanted. My parents supported me and thought I was doing everything right, that I had to push myself that much if I wanted to get in.

I broke down during the test. Literally went to the bathroom and started crying because I couldn’t do a simple math question that otherwise I could do in my sleep. The person responsible for applying the test (I’m sorry, I don’t know the correct name for that job, English isn’t my first language) asked me if I was okay and if I wanted to stop doing the test and go to another room to calm down. I just couldn’t. I would never quit. My parents had been asking me to pass that test since I was eight – said high school was free – and everyone was counting on me to score a high grade – including my family and all my teachers (up until a couple of years I was the family's golden child – nowadays I couldn't care less about what they think of me, because now I see how racist, misogynistic, and LGBTQ+phobic they are; just genuinely bad people with an awful character. But back then I was a child who was spending too much time studying to really think about how toxic my family was – and I thrived under being loved by everyone like that, on everyone thinking I was that smart and I could go to many places because of it).

(I passed the test. And then broke down crying afterwards because I looked at the questions and thought "these are so easy, I could've easily gotten a higher grade, I'm so stupid." Yes, that was my train of thought, even though I got 90% of that test right, which is much, much higher than most people usually get – and it was more than enough to get into said high school).

I was the golden student up to that moment. Best grades of the entire school (around more than 500 students), national medalist, best grades in the Astronomic Olympics out of everyone in my country, teachers loving me and giving me harder questions because they knew sometimes I got bored over how easy school was (yes, I know that was in middle school and nowadays I see that being the golden student back then didn't mean I was the next Einstein. But back then I was a child and I used to believe so. The thing that gets me now is not that I didn't go that far academically, but just that right now I can't go anywhere academically speaking). And I broke down because I couldn’t do a simple math question.

This year will mark ten years of that. And since then, I simply can’t study. I get itchy whenever I sit down to study, it’s hard as fuck for me to read anything for my major, I lose attention during lectures ten minutes in – and it’s been like that since 2017 (burnout at the end of 2016, high school started at the beginning of 2017. South American here).

I don’t know what to do. I’ve been in therapy for seven years and I’m still at the same place I was at 2017 (about studying. I’ve gotten much better about everything else, including what in me is a direct consequence of living under that kind of pressure so young, specially from my parents). I’ve changed therapists and nothing changed. I finished said high school during the pandemic (still bitter I didn't get a proper prom – my class was great and we deserved it!), but I was just pushing through it. I would go to school in the morning, then get home, eat, and sleep the entire afternoon. But now that I'm in college, I can't just go through the motions anymore.

Yes, I'm taking medication for my depression, and have been for a while now – good meds, they've been great for most aspects of my life. Sitting down to study is the only thing that I still can't do it quite right.

I quit my major a month ago (not because of that, completely different reason, long story) and I’ve never felt more rested in years. It’s like a huge weight has left my shoulders (I work to pay my bills, my parents don’t help me with anything – so life is somehow moving forward, but not on the academic part).

And I know some of you might be thinking "well your life is moving forward, so why do you care so much about graduating?" Not getting a major is really looked down here in my country, so I might get to a point in my work career where I can’t move forward anymore because I don’t have a degree. And honestly I do feel ashamed that most of my friends have graduated and I still can't sit through a lecture ten years later – I do not judge people if they do not have a major, but I do judge myself for it. Yes, I know these are high standards to put on my shoulders, but honestly I know I'm smart as fuck – I might not be the next Einstein like my math teacher used to believe lol but I know I have the ability to get to places. But I'm stuck. So all that ability and intelligence means fucking nothing when I can't finish a 40-page reading for class.

Jesus, I'm sounding really arrogant. I don't mean to sound like that, I'm just really angry.

Has anyone ever gone through that? If so, what did you do to fix it? I just need to fix it, because honestly I’ve already tried everything else and it hasn’t worked.

(Also I don't use AI and this was neither written by nor written with the help of ChatGPT or anything else – I just love en-dashes and semicolons and I use them a lot lol. Also yes I use en-dashes instead of em-dashes because I think they're prettier. This specific grammar rule that says you're supposed to use em-dashes is wrong and does not consider that they're ugly, and en-dashes are much more beautiful. Also yes I do use the Oxford comma. One of the few times the British were right. Also if there are any grammar mistakes in this post, I'm sorry but also I don't care about the English language. The British are responsible for colonizing many countries in this world and they should be blamed for every single genocide, civil war, and terrorist attacks that has happened and still happens in Africa and West Asia, so...)

Oi, galera!

Eu trabalho home office há pouco mais de três anos e o tanto de tempo que eu passo no computador e mexendo no mouse está destruindo meu ombro e meu pulso

Vocês poderiam me recomendar um mouse ergonômico com um bom custo benefício para o meu caso, por favor? Não queria passar de 300 reais, mas estou disposta a pagar mais caro se for algo que vá me ajudar. Não preciso de nada avançado no mouse, apenas botão direito, esquerdo e mecanismo de rolagem. Prefiro mouse sem fio, à pilha e com conexão USB - me dá menos dor de cabeça

Desde já, muitíssimo obrigada!