AITAH For Wanting To Go No Contact With My Brother
I 29(F) and my brother 34 (M) have always been close since we were kids. We could tell each other everything and always hangout together. Even into adulthood we were like two best friends.
Growing up my brother always had trouble trying to talk to woman. He was very shy and quiet around them. Until he was in his 20's and became friends with a guy at work that introduced him to s*x worker.
His friend did this because he thought if my brother just got the chance to know what it was like to be with a woman then maybe he would have the courage to not be scared or nervous around them.
Unfortunately that backfired because ever since he went down that path he didnt gain any courage to talk to woman.
He has been doing this for years but recently things have gotten bad. A couple of months ago started dating one of the woman and they moved in together. I did not think this was a good idea because of her profession and the fact that she takes certain substances.
Which made me think that he might be doing the same substances as her. I asked him and of course he said no and swore up and down that he is not doing that. Obviously I didnt belive him but whatever nothing I could do. He informed our mom and oldest brother what he had done and they said he needs to stop talking to this woman, go no contact and she is not the right person for him.
He said we just don't understand and that we should be able to accept him and his gf for who they are and stop judging him for being with her and that we dont even know her.
For the past month he has been calling me each week asking me for money claiming it is for bills when in reality I think he isn't using the money for something else. I recently found out for sure on saturday when he came to my apt asking me for money.
Now mind u after he told us to just accept the lifestyle he chose as much as it hurt me I had to let him be and we hadn't talked in awhile. When he came to my apt he looked like he lost alot of weight, he was wearing his work clothes and they were extremely filthy and he smelled like he hadn't showered in days.
I sat him down and tried to have a conversation with him and he was crying and telling me that he infact hadn't been using the money for bills and that he was sorry and i was right all along. Not only was he asking me for money but our mom and oldest brother would give him money as well.
He constantly says he is going to stop. He says he is sorry and constantly says he will change but never does.
I love my bro very much and I dont want to see anything happen to him. I really dont know what to do and if u tell him that he needs to get help and some therapy he just denies it.
I really wish i could give him the help that he needs it constantly upsets me to know he is living a life like this. I cant keep crying or going insane thinking about this. I wish I had my old brother back. I wish we could go back to the days when we were like bestie but I know those days are over now.
The only way I know how to deal with this is to go no contact. I feel like I should block him so that way i can have a peace of mind.
Im really at a lost but I dont wanna keep feeling down and crying idk what to do so AITAH if I block him?
TLDR After being close to my brother for years. He decided substance and lying were worth more than having a bond with me. WIBTAH if i went no contact?