Women who supposedly hate men but won’t stop performing for them and actively shaming other women who don’t conform to the standards set by males in the process
My mother had always been a shining example of the phenomenon in my life. In my childhood she yelled at me for not shaving, telling me how ashamed I should be and how no man could ever love me; not taking into account that shaving caused me a lot of sensory issues and that I simply just liked having body hair. More recently she criticized my choice of not wanting to put on some makeup, telling me how it showed that I “didn’t love myself”. These are all things she believes yet she will never stop talking about how trash men are despite her mindset uplifting the very status quo that makes men treat women like shit.
No matter how well you conform to a patriarchal society, men will never see you as equal of the same respect that they hold for other men. I myself have always tried to respect and even defend men in the past and it never stopped them from wanting to hurt me, which is why now I am a big supporter of the 4B movement.
I wish other women around me would see the reality but sometimes you can’t erase the years of conditioning in a world that has centered men for so long. So many women believe that some of the choices they make when it comes to their body is a conscious one, not quite ready to see just how much influence misogyny has on them.