u/hunter_lee59

So I’m not sure if I have vaginismus, and I’d just like some advice. Context I’m 23 and this person is my first, and sex is a sensitive topic in my family unfortunately (parents are very religious)….

The first time I had sex, it was really painful during entry. Since then, the entrance always hurts. I think because it hurt the first time, my brain automatically anticipates pain and makes me tighten up.

I tried using edibles to see if relaxing mentally would help. The first time still hurt, but the second time I got high, I tried breathing exercises and decided to go on top. It went in well and I really enjoyed myself!
Recently, I tried it sober. I prepped with some yoga stretches, we did foreplay, and I got on top. Even though it was a little sore going in, it wasn’t too bad and I enjoyed it so much. I definitely prefer being on top now because I can relax, though when it slips out and goes back in, it’s still a bit sore.

My main issue now is that I can’t do doggy style and still pain during entry. It feels like he is hitting something deep inside and I just can't take it. I actually had that same "hitting something" feeling when trying to go on top at first, but now that I'm used to it, on top feels great.

Does this sound like vaginismus, and any advice on how to fix the soreness and the pain from deep penetration? Any opinions appreciated!

23F. I’ve only had penetrative sex 3 times, with about 2 weeks between each time.

When my partner first enters, it feels tight and sore, mostly like stretching. Once I’m relaxed and he’s inside, it gets easier and isn’t nearly as painful, but I still feel very full. The biggest issue is that when he goes deep (especially in doggy style or when I’m on top), it feels like he’s hitting something inside and causes a dull pressure/ache. Sometimes it feels like I need to pee.

After sex I might feel a little sore at the entrance, but the pain doesn’t linger and I don’t have pelvic pain outside of sex. My periods are normal (about 5 days), I don’t have severe cramps, and I don’t have pain with urination or bowel movements during my period.

Is this something that can be normal when you’re new to sex and your partner is larger, or does it sound like something I should get checked out?