ABYG because I exploded after being constantly dismissed by my family?
TW: slight sexual theme
Ako ba yung gago just because I voiced out my valid concerns? Today was really overwhelming for me. A few days ago, I (23F) already got really hurt because my dad (M55) left his used underwear (flipped inside out) on the sofa and I reminded him to put it in the hamper since it felt unhygienic and disrespectful in a shared space. He got angry at me for bringing it up again later, and my mom basically defended him and said it was different because he’s my dad. That already stayed with me because I felt like my concerns were treated as less important than protecting his feelings.
Then today another thing happened that pushed me over the edge. I found my brother’s (M22) flash drive with sexual content inside my underwear drawer, which felt like a huge violation of my privacy and boundaries. I exploded because it felt like everything just piled up — the disrespect, the double standards, and constantly feeling unheard.
What hurt even more was how my family reacted afterward. My dad got angry again and threatened me to move out, while my mom focused more on my reaction and tone than on why I got pushed to that point. They also blamed my hormones and acted like I was making a huge deal out of things. Then the next day they all acted normal with each other, which made me feel really betrayed and alone, like I’m the only one carrying the emotional weight of everything that happened.
I know my reaction sounded harsh, and I’m not saying I handled everything perfectly, but I also feel like people only see the explosion and not the buildup that caused it. I think underneath all the anger, I just feel really hurt, emotionally unsafe, and disconnected from myself lately. It’s been affecting my confidence, my ability to feel happy, and even simple things like posting online or feeling comfortable around people.