u/i-hope-i-lie

someone close to me is trying to move away from their parents. they’re overage but their parents refuse to let them tour places and they aren’t allowed to leave the house much. sneaking would be very difficult because their parents make them bring their sibling on every outing, who would definitely report it to them. they don’t have anyone who would let them stay with them, so their only option is to rent a place, which requires touring.

what is their best option here?

do not suggest shelters, police, “just doing it anyway” or anything else unrealistic or which is supposed to help but will actually just be a huge inconvenience for this person.

please. i can’t be alone right now, i can’t sleep, i desperately need someone. i desperately want someone talk to. if you read my last post on this sub, i have it in my post history, i’d really appreciate it. i’m so devastated right now because this is so much more to me than a lost opportunity, it’s everything. all the trauma. a wasted blessing. everything. wasting the best blessing since my salvation itself so so many times. i’ve been doing that since i was a child.

my body is destroying itself right now.

i’m pretty distraught right now. it’s a long story, but i had a very difficult childhood and i’m pretty traumatized. i finally found GOD this year, and i have a friend who i’ve known for years online, who also has been extremely traumatized as a child and found GOD.

we had the same dreams and plans for the future. we stopped talking for a while, over a year, but reconnected this year and i felt like GOD wanted me to marry her. i was in one of the darkest times, and i was starting to drift. He sent me someone to make sure i stayed on track, and it felt like He genuinely wanted me to marry this person.

i kept praying for Him to tell her i was her husband, and He did. my entire life, i’ve had a weird tendency to push the limits and sabotage things, but when i’m actually about to lose them or have, i regret it so deeply and i grovel and beg and plead. i did this with her, and i continued doing it even after i begged GOD for more chances and received them, i wasted those as well.

i wouldn’t stop creating drama and sabotage and i don’t know why, it’s like the love and peace wasn’t good enough for me. i didn’t realize how blessed i was fully until it’s gone now and i truly believe that i won’t waste another chance if i’m given one.

it isn’t at all that she’s mad at me for sabotaging it, it’s that she spiraled into doubt from it about our relationship and about her entire life, everything. i’ve pushed the limits so far and destroyed all my chances up to this point. i still fully trust GOD. i’m not going to drift from Him.

i just want a hug. i want to heal. i want for her to heal. i want to not have sabotaged such a blessing, like i’ve sabotaged so much in my life since i was a child. we were going to heal together and we would be able to if only i hadn’t ruined this so many times. please pray for us.

i’m hurting so badly. i can’t sleep. my chest and mouth and throat burns and i feel like i’m on fire, i’m sweating so much even with no blankets on and i just don’t know how i’m gonna face my dreams if i sleep.

p.s. we’re both young adults living in these situations with our parents still. healing can’t begin fully cause we aren’t out yet. and i don’t know how i’m gonna face my mother knowing it’s not guaranteed that i have a life with her to go to.