u/iSkeetOnFeet

I posted about 10 days ago that we had the talk and she said she didn't want the house, car, or kids, just $$$.

Well you guys must all be clairvoyant because sure enough lawyers are lying to her and she wants it all.

Tldr: our house is in my parents name. We rented, they bought it, we signed a new lease with my folks. All payments have been from my paycheck so marital funds but she wants half equity. My parents said they don't want to sell and give us the proceeds to split. What will happen in court in CA? Also what happens to lawyer fees if we have no assets or cash? Stressed tf out

We tried to sit down and work out an agreement. She balked at everything and said "lawyers wanna take you for a ride", "you have advanced degrees so support will be based on your earning potential", also "i can take my name off the car since I have no income and all debt belongs to you including my lawyer fees so why should I mediate anything"

We have nothing but debt. The house is in my parents trust. Always has been although it was purchased after we were married. My parents said they love her but she can't stay without me and they're not selling the house and giving us the proceeds to split. She is going to try and fight that the down payment and all mortgage payments, insurance, and tax payments have been from marital funds.

Without a house we have no assets to split. What happens to the lawyer fees? Will they fight tooth and nail to get her some of the equity? I'm stressed tf out

Married almost 15 years, 3 kids under 13. She's stayed home the entire time. I stopped putting up with her constant condescending comments, mood swings, just BS in general so lately she's been saying I hate her. I did a few consults with lawyers and was waiting for the "right time". Lawyers all said move out whenever, no effect in CA.

Today we were watching TV and multiple couples were getting divorced or on the brink. She turned to me and asked if I want a divorce, I told her I feel that I'll never make her happy and she said the same.

She said she'll always have her kids then she stuck her hand out and we shook on it. Immediately after she said she doesn't want the house, car, or kids, just $$$ and told me to GTFO out of our bedroom. Locked herself in the room and told me to feed the kids dinner. Couple hours later she takes the kids to get some fast food.

I'm moving my stuff downstairs and looking for a new place to move ASAP. Likely an apartment or townhouse with a pool for the kids. We have a 2026 luxury vehicle and house to sell. Gonna try and work out a custody agreement this week while touring some spots to move. Hopefully we can work through it amicably but I'm not as hopeful anymore. Seems she plans to stay in the room, ignore me, and leave the kids to me until she feels like it.

Just wanted to vent a bit. Should be a fun summer.

Married almost 15 years with 3 kids in CA. I've been the sole earner the entire time, trying to stay for the kids. But what are we really showing them? It's hard to fake it all the time. I'm just done.

Reckoning with the fact that I can't afford to buy a decent house, will likely have to rent an apartment for the amenities, but man 3 bedrooms are $3k+ and 4 bedrooms are rare. Will likely have to give the kids all rooms and sleep in the living room or give 2 kids the master and take a smaller bedroom. Kids are used to over 3k square feet, vacations, they're pretty spoiled I guess.

All this before child support and alimony. Oh yeah and I also need another car as we only have one that I'm paying the note on. I hate to sell the marital home but it looks like the only way. She can't afford it and I won't be able to pay the house, car, another car, and a new place for me. You try to give someone a life that none of their friends or family have just to end up a walking wallet damn near living in poverty. FML